Asking out a girl at work (long read)

Currently working part-time at a retail clothing store and going to school. I'll be completely honest, I've never had a girlfriend before, never had a first kiss, heck never even went on a date before not with a real girl that was happy. However, I know I have a chance to change that.

Back in High School, I was an introvert with social anxiety. I'm not in High School anymore, and working in retail and just getting a taste of the world outside of High School has immensely boosted my confidence. I've never really put much thought into a relationship, as my focus was on work and school until recently. Bear with me, this will be lengthy and thank you to anyone who reads all this and offers their input and advice.

I'm friendly with most of my co-workers, but with this girl in particular, we're always engaging in playful banter whenever we happen to be working together. As we are both working the register, we have some inside jokes about the customers. When I clock in and she notices me for the first time, she always seems elated to see me, "Yay, Randy is here!" She also seems very interested on what days we are both going to be working and always asking me when my shift ends. Whenever we buy something from the store, we both purposefully wait and let customers go ahead of us to the other cashiers just so we can ring each other up.

Unfortunately, because we're both part time, while we may work together on some days, our shifts are usually different and I never really get a chance to speak with her outside of work and I scarcely see her in the break room. There were some moments where I got to talk to her in the break room and I found out she's In the same college I'm in and she takes the exact same public transit I use to go to work and to come home from work. I've never asked, but I am confident that she doesn't have a boyfriend.

So the event that inspired me to make this topic happened a day ago. She finished her shift, and after we bade each other good night she said something like "Maybe I should go shopping, I'm going to your register." Her "shopping" consisted of grabbing a small package of biscuits from the queue line. then she waited in line and purposefully let customers go ahead of her when the cashiers called for the next customer, just so I could ring her up.

My shift ended 30 minutes after hers and I entertained the idea of meeting her at the bus stop. Next thing you know, there she is at the bus stop and she was thrilled that we would be sharing a bus ride home. Damn right I was thrilled as well. It was probably the best time I've had riding in public transportation; sharing and eating the biscuits she bought, talking about school, and laughing about our experiences at work.

I used to have a mild crush on her, but after that event, I am really infatuated with her. I have 0 experience of being in a relationship, and 0 experience in courtship, but I do know that I should take the initiative now and do something. Help me out guys, I'm very unsure as to what I should do next. Thank you if you've read this far and much thanks to any advice/input!

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"long read"...
Were this a cheesy TV show there would be something involving the phrase "my son".
My son, allow me to teach you how long reads work some time.

Also "heck never even went on a date before not with a real girl that was happy"
That is not very nice -- emo people are people too.

I suppose to end then I would say do not. If you do she might instantly stop what is going on, laugh at you, announce it over the PA. From then on people will point and titter as you walk by. This will probably get so bad that you have to quit your job, leave school, change your appearance and maybe even leave the state.
 
"long read"...
Were this a cheesy TV show there would be something involving the phrase "my son".
My son, allow me to teach you how long reads work some time.

Also "heck never even went on a date before not with a real girl that was happy"
That is not very nice -- emo people are people too.

I suppose to end then I would say do not. If you do she might instantly stop what is going on, laugh at you, announce it over the PA. From then on people will point and titter as you walk by. This will probably get so bad that you have to quit your job, leave school, change your appearance and maybe even leave the state.
What could possibly go wrong? ;)
 
Well, honestly I'd hint around and try to get her to spill whether she has a boy friend or not. Do you know how awkward it is to have a person ask you out when you yourself are seeing someone? Take your time. Don't act nervous even if you are. Play it cool. From the sound of things I think she likes you.
 
I have already passed a bad expirience...
And 90% of that is the reason Im here today...
It was just so deeppresing...
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She may or may not totally want to jump your bones.
Ask her out, it's a temp job and one of you is bound to leave soon so if she shoots you down it won't be weird for long. You have nothing to lose and a lot to gain.



 
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May I recommend the game Love+? You could really learn a thing or two :P

Jokes aside, she's clearly into you. Since when have you two been friends? Don't make a move too quickly but at the same time don't be late. I guess try harder to interact with her? Get to know her better. Show her that you're 'boyfriend material'.

One thing you could really try is by taking baby steps, exchanging phone numbers, asking more about her family, opening about yours, if she likes you, she'll be clearly interested and you'll know. When you think that you've reached a certain point in your friendship, casually ask her out for a coffee or something
 
She may or may not totally want to jump your bones.
Ask her out, it's a temp job and one of you is bound to leave soon so if she shoots you down it won't be weird for long. You have nothing to lose and a lot to gain.



That's gonna help i'm sure :P:P:P:grog::grog::grog:
 
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Worst thing that could happen is you two would feel uncomfortable at work if things went south, but hey, you only live once so ask her. Two or so years ago I worked at a retail store and found my colleague jacking off in a stockroom with the floor all wet from his greasy stuff which was absolutely disgusting but I'm no snitch, so what happened instead is that we never spoke again. I don't work there anymore but even still, that's something I can't forget.
 
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Worst thing that could happen is you two would feel uncomfortable at work if things went south, but hey, you only live once so ask her. Two or so years ago I worked at a retail store and found my colleague jacking off in a stockroom with the floor all wet from his greasy stuff which was absolutely disgusting but I'm no snitch, so what happened instead is that we never spoke again. I don't work there anymore but even still, that's something I can't forget.
Oh God the stock room? With stuff people buy? How could you not report that? o.o Did it not occur to you people would be buying that stuff? xD
 
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Oh God the stock room? With stuff people buy? How could you not report that? o.o Did it not occur to you people would be buying that stuff? xD
The worst part is that it was a stockroom full of kids' toys. What customers don't know can't hurt them.
 
Worst thing that could happen is you two would feel uncomfortable at work if things went south, but hey, you only live once so ask her. Two or so years ago I worked at a retail store and found my colleague jacking off in a stockroom with the floor all wet from his greasy stuff which was absolutely disgusting but I'm no snitch, so what happened instead is that we never spoke again. I don't work there anymore but even still, that's something I can't forget.
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