Asking out a girl at work (long read)

Currently working part-time at a retail clothing store and going to school. I'll be completely honest, I've never had a girlfriend before, never had a first kiss, heck never even went on a date before not with a real girl that was happy. However, I know I have a chance to change that.

Back in High School, I was an introvert with social anxiety. I'm not in High School anymore, and working in retail and just getting a taste of the world outside of High School has immensely boosted my confidence. I've never really put much thought into a relationship, as my focus was on work and school until recently. Bear with me, this will be lengthy and thank you to anyone who reads all this and offers their input and advice.

I'm friendly with most of my co-workers, but with this girl in particular, we're always engaging in playful banter whenever we happen to be working together. As we are both working the register, we have some inside jokes about the customers. When I clock in and she notices me for the first time, she always seems elated to see me, "Yay, Randy is here!" She also seems very interested on what days we are both going to be working and always asking me when my shift ends. Whenever we buy something from the store, we both purposefully wait and let customers go ahead of us to the other cashiers just so we can ring each other up.

Unfortunately, because we're both part time, while we may work together on some days, our shifts are usually different and I never really get a chance to speak with her outside of work and I scarcely see her in the break room. There were some moments where I got to talk to her in the break room and I found out she's In the same college I'm in and she takes the exact same public transit I use to go to work and to come home from work. I've never asked, but I am confident that she doesn't have a boyfriend.

So the event that inspired me to make this topic happened a day ago. She finished her shift, and after we bade each other good night she said something like "Maybe I should go shopping, I'm going to your register." Her "shopping" consisted of grabbing a small package of biscuits from the queue line. then she waited in line and purposefully let customers go ahead of her when the cashiers called for the next customer, just so I could ring her up.

My shift ended 30 minutes after hers and I entertained the idea of meeting her at the bus stop. Next thing you know, there she is at the bus stop and she was thrilled that we would be sharing a bus ride home. Damn right I was thrilled as well. It was probably the best time I've had riding in public transportation; sharing and eating the biscuits she bought, talking about school, and laughing about our experiences at work.

I used to have a mild crush on her, but after that event, I am really infatuated with her. I have 0 experience of being in a relationship, and 0 experience in courtship, but I do know that I should take the initiative now and do something. Help me out guys, I'm very unsure as to what I should do next. Thank you if you've read this far and much thanks to any advice/input!

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I rather not she doesn't seem to have any respect among other little things.

Do not want.
 
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I rather not she doesn't seem to have any respect among other little things.

Do not want.
Just ask her to go see a movie...
It is so worth it

Too nervous?
ask any of your friends that have been in a relationship, and see if they spam "JUST DO IT" Loudly into your ear
 
As far as the "is she single?" thing I've taken to looking at their left hands. If there's a ring on the ring finger, they're engaged or married, so most likely not gonna happen. No ring doesn't mean they're single but it can give you an idea.
 
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Good work man. Make sure you don't move too fast but...don't go to slow (see "friend zone")..It's a complicated line.

its great that you're finally getting out there but be careful.. a wise man once said in a retail or office enviroment: don't shit where you eat. If workplace relationships don't end well. It can create and endless amount of awkwardness + resentment. Plus if it was really really bad they can try to get you fired *looks at personal experience with this* ._<

But you're not even to that point yet. Ask her out! Make it like a hang out session! Get to know her outside of the work enviroment.

SGA: (Before you make the personal goal to yourself to be more than friends with her: MAKE SURE SHE'S SINGLE [No significant other] FIRST. Just because there isn't a ring on her finger doesn't mean she has a boyfriend possibly. The way you describe her sounds like she's available = P)

**Reads OP about skipping on work girl**: Well shit nevermind. Awesome though

+1 for being same age as me. Good luck friend :P
 
Hey I had two workplace relationships. After the second I said "this place is bad for my mental health I need to get the fuck out." So I did. No luck on that front since, but lots of success pretty much everywhere else, otherwise.
 
Bro, ask her to chill with ya. The worst thats gonna happen is shes gonna say no. If she does, dont take it to heart, you never had a gf before, you have to swing at some balls to hit some, and you gotta miss them sometimes too. It's good for your character and your self esteem to know that life goes on regardless. Dont take it to heart if she doesnt bite. Take it in stride, get your confidence back up, act like everything is cool and you can maybe get another shot later. Dont let her know if it hurts, women like confidence, actually, forget that, People in general like confidence. And as an aside, if you never said that you hadn't had a gf before and you had social confidence issues, I would've said don't fuck with women you work with. It rarely ends up good. In this circumstance, I say get on it son. Every day you don't is a day wasted.
 
She has rings but their peace rings or "wave ring" as she calls them, the three rings are on her right hand (not sure what that means) I think she's playing hard to get imo and I like that.
 
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I don't is like a sim date game purposly made as a prank to set it up to see someone fail. But this is no game!

Show her your not afraid of challenge. DO IT! Walk up to her and ask, if she says anything but YES then you reply "Okay i see what you did there, challenge accepted."

More clever if you prepare a picture of the meme on your phone to show it off, visual representations usually do well. :yay:
 
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