being avoided pt. 2

Maybe she had a rough morning? or a rough sleep D:

Well, at least someone pointed out to her that she needed to tone it down a notch.

In the end, she was nice to you, again

yes, but we only meet on weekends when i do OTs. she was just recently moved to GY shift and i'm in the morning. my in is 7am, and out is 4pm, her in is 7pm and in is 4am.

so gotta wait til next saturday. unless she does an OT.

or if she will reply if i text her. btw, it was she who sent the first text message. though i already told them i seldom look at my phone, so my reply came almost 4 hours late.

Oh Boy!! 2nd part is out .

jokes aside, i'm having a similar story too :\

so today i drank coffee to make myself a bit hyperactive so that i could easily talk to other people and finish some things i need to do.

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Jesus christ don't do that. You're a lot more liable to screw something up if you're jittery.
Don't talk under your breath. No matter what you say, you're likely going to annoy the person (and make a situation worse).

Anyway, it sounds like she's being pretty defensive around you. Thus, there's something up. "What" is up, I couldn't guess without knowing her personally. But, tread lightly. This'll making timing and wording a lot more key if you don't wanna screw up trying to get out of her what's wrong. I'd hate to say it but you might have to resort to asking her in a way that isn't face-to-face. "But Hells that's so taboo!", yes it is. But but are a lot more likely to drop their guard in a more impersonal medium as opposed to being face-to-face. Not like you're asking her out or breaking up with her over texts, so it's not that bad. Plus it helps you say exactly what you want to say. No matter how many times you rehearse a speech, you might still crack under the pressure.

Hells has the right idea. Either through a text or, seeing as you don't check your phone very often, write her a note. While it's a little 5th grade-ish, you can think about what you want to say and take your time doing it. Just...don't write things like "DO U LIEK ME?? CHCK Y OR N".

WRITE YOUR FEELINGS BRO.

@Hells no it's not like that, you see if i didn't drank coffee, i wouldn't be able to talk to her, that's how shy i am. like what i said in my previous blog, whenever she's there, words won't come out. total mental block.
i'm very quiet, i don't talk to others unless they talk to me, so the coffee helped a bit. i still have control on what i would say, it just removed the too much doubt where i would really think too much if i would or i would not and by the time i decide on what to do, i already missed the chance.

though i'd try to text her if she would reply.
edit: but she would probably be asleep by now.

Who are you, Raj from The Big Bang Theory?
Shy or not, you need to stand on your own two feet or don't bother trying. Girls don't want a wuss. I'm shy as hell too, but I can at least use my balls when I need to and completely ignore my shyness. I can't even explain how shy I am, either. It's not like i'm just a little shy. But there are times when you need to man up, and get things done. Learn to do that, instead of relying on a crutch (at least it's not alcohol, but still). The first time is the hardest, it's easier after that. Building confidence is a must, even if you only whip it out (your confidence not your penis) once in a while.

Hell, the first time I asked a girl out was grade 10, and she rejected me. Took me 3 months to build up the courage to do it, too.
I was crushed, I was devastated, and eventually I realized, I was awesome for at least trying instead of letting my shyness control me. After that, talking and interacting with girls got a lot easier. I'm still shy as hell, but i'm a lot more capable of ditching that shyness now when I need to.

I agree completely with Hells. As outspoken as I am, I have a major phobia when it comes to meeting new people and talking to them. It's hard, but I always manage to force myself to say what it is I want/need to say.

As shy as you may be, being shy won't get you the answer to the question that's making you awfully uneasy.

And he's right about using a crutch. Don't do it. Just muster all your strength and say it. If she gets defense about it again, she probably isn't the girl for you. You don't want someone who's constantly getting defensive over tiny things.

okay let me clear some stuff.

1. you see how i normally post in the forums? that's how i can speak now irl after i drank coffee.
2. and it does not last like beer, it lasts longer. actually i can still feel some of the coffee's effects til now.
3. i only have 1 month, the longest before she goes back home (it could be 2-3wks, depends if she'll do OTs). can't wait 3 months.
4. like i said, this is how i can speak irl now, so it helped me in some situations (helping people if i know i can, talk to the regulars with confidence and have better wording, etc.).
5. internship + classes = less sleep. solution? coffee.
6. yes this is how i stand on my feet. use everything in my arsenal.
7. what i was like before i drank coffee? you won't even know i was a gbatemp member (i'm not invisible irl so i have to communicate).


this is actually the first time my whole life that i drank coffee. however, i've tried some energy drinks before. still waiting if there's gonna be some after effects.


edit: also updates:
her friends said she probably already noticed that i like her and is just shy. though i don't want to jump into a conclusion. i'll just wait and see for myself tomorrow.
i wish i'm allowed to do an overtime/double shift tomorrow coz the day after tomorrow's gonna be my rest day.

i do appreciate your advice HM and PG.

You can give us excuses all you want about the coffee thing, but it's not like you're hurting us. Relying on a crutch for social situations can lead to worse things, but hell in general it's not exactly the smart thing to do anyway. You're treating coffee exactly like alcohol right now, and hell you're even describing similar effects. This coffee bullshit is all in your head. The coffee doesn't do a god damn thing.
If you wanted I could prescribe some sugar pills that'll give you the exact same confidence boost.

You have just as much confidence with coffee, as without coffee. Unless you drink some really special coffee infused with liquid courage and strength.

i meant, i over-think too much if i should or i should not, i know what i should do or say but i do not. being a bit hyperactive somewhat removes that part of me coz i tend to just say what's in my head.

for example, i would see a lady looking for something, i know where it is, but i just look at her coz i still think whether i should or should not tell her.
i see a someone riding a motorcycle, i want to call him up to say the road's closed ahead, but i don't.
and when i know she's tired, i'd like to say "sit down and rest, i'll be back with the item." but nope. not a word.
i wanted to say excuse me, but i don't, i just find a way w/o letting the person know.
that's was the me. but being a bit hyperactive, i just tend to blurt out what i really think.

there's been always something that kept my mouth shut.