Being dumb is not too bad...

I tell myself that "I maybe good(not GREAT) in school, but I can never think for myself". I guess that's because somebody is always holding my hand through events, resulting me to never have to think for myself. My dad (doing the usual Asian thing) always tells me "If you do exactly as I say, then your life will be easy down the road". Whatever my dad tells me to do, I just do it without thinking. From the "prepare dinner for tonight's guest" to "study hard", I've always done what he says, even though I don't always achieve the results that he wants...

But after my college orientation, I realized that I HAVE to start to think for myself. Because the classes are so packed, the advisers just threw random classes into my schedule. I just mindlessly accepted them(because I'm dumb like that). My sister(who already went through a 4-year college) decided to check my schedule. She asked me why I took the most random classes, and I just told her "they told me to". She lectured me about me being dumb and stuff, while fixing my class schedule. After everything was said and done about my classes, I felt really grateful for having somebody to help me out. Compared to my siblings, I'm the most easily fooled/tricked/pranked. BUT, compared to my siblings, I'm pretty darn nice to everyone. Everyone always tells me that I get my "nice but dumb" nature from my mom.

I may not be able to think for myself, BUT I get treated well from people around me (ex. Zelda Edition 3DS, SNSD posters, and the such).

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astrangeone
This is what college/university is for - to let you make your mistakes and to learn from them.

My first year was terrible, it was insanely difficult to balance schoolwork, friendships, clubs and taking care of oneself.

Even grocery shopping is a pain in the tush!
 
rastsan
Its not "dumb" its the (don't misunderstand me I'm not being racist), way you were raised. The asian urge to please. Your father treated you that way all your life, instead of teaching you (like he did your sister) one of the most important things in life. How to make decisions for your self. its not whether you are dumb or smart its about the choice and having learned the value of that choice.

sure its nice to have someone give you direction. But you always have a choice in following that direction. Feeling afterwards like you made the wrong choice in following the direction one person was giving you doesn't make you dumb. It shows that you are learning the value of choosing your own way.
Do yourself a favour whenever you find yourself just going along with someone else, just letting them tell you what to do (and then doing it), ask yourself if this is really what you want to do. Better don't just ask yourself think about what the choice of following them might end in and if this is really going to be good for you. If you find yourself thinking this isn't what I want to do or this isn't good for me, or it just makes you uncomfortable or any other negative thing then don't do it.
 
Skelletonike
I've never really been told what to do, ever since I was a kid I was given objectives to achieve, how I achieved them, was up to me. I've always been given a choice on what I want to do and what I don't want to do, also, I don't think it has to do with being Asian, I have friends that also grew up the same way, it really depends from the parents, although neither way is wrong, whether you like it or not, sometimes you have to do exactly what you're told. In a way, the best thing in life is to think for yourself, but also realise when you need to do exactly as you're told.
 
celeron53
Yeah there have been times when I did question the directions that I was told, but like you said, I was the way I was raised. Because my father would always tell me "Trust me, I'm right", I would just mindlessly go without thinking. And I feel comfortable if I did what was told because if it didn't turn out correctly, the fault wouldn't fall on me, it would fall on the person directing me. Which pulls the responsibility off my shoulders. But I do understand that sometimes, I just have to stop and think if something is good for me. Thanks for the comments, really appreciate the responses.
 
Haloman800
Obedience does not = dumb. It's smarter than rebellion. Obeying your parents is good training, it will help you listen to your teachers & complete assignments. When you have to think and make decisions for yourself, it won't be hard, and you will have good judgement based on prior training.
 
Arnold Schwarzen
Nothing dumb about it, just habits and having been too comfortable with them. I do similar things but I know I can change the way I do them if I wanted to. Sometimes I'm just so busy with other things I don't prioritize what I need to improve about myself and repeat certain mistakes. There are no limits to human potential.
 
Pleng
If I'd just did everything I was told, I'd have had an awful lot easier life!

Don't get me wrong I'm uber happy now, but went about it the hard way! Keep on as you are, I say.
 

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