A "Should I or should I not come out?" Clone

I know these sorts of entries aren't everyone's cup of tea, but I guess this is a warning to leave if you want, especially if you don't really care about "coming out" blogs.

Hey everyone, I've decided to make an awkwardly written and somewhat cynical blog entry about coming out to my parents as transgender (which from BurningDesire's thread from a couple of months ago caused quite a bit a havoc due to people's different views, which I say you're allowed to give me advice about not coming out on this entry since I believe everyone is allowed an opinion no matter how "offensive" it could be).

I've been planning on making this entry for a while now but always decide not to since I'm a person who keeps things to herself and isn't "loud and proud" about myself and my interests. This blog entry might be a bit over-dramatic for a thing that isn't big at all. But since this has been going on for a long time and has now made me a "depressed mess" as I call it, I've finally decided to "whine" about it.

I constantly have days where I say I'm going to tell them about it but I always pussy out. My guess is due to my lack of self confidence, and I have no idea if they will be okay with me being trans. (They probably will be okay with it, but heck I'm not sure). I also have a feeling that they know something is wrong now since I'm always a "depressed mess" who stays their bedroom all the time.

All you guys, a few people on other sites and skype, and one person I know irl are the only ones I've told. (The person I told irl was alright with it, but they were a "I don't really care" sort of alright with it.)

If you're wondering why I chose to talk about it on this site, it's because you guys are the only people I talk to, as well as Skype friends.

So I guess this takes me back to my main question: Should I come out and how should I come out? Thanks.
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joyoshi
Try bringing up the subject in a conversation to see what their opinion is. If they're okay with it, you can let the conversation flow right into you coming out. If not, keep it to yourself ofc.
 
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Seriel
Well I don't know about the "how" but I know you probably should.
The longer you leave it, the worse it'll get :/

Good luck though! :)
 
Ricken
Say "Hey Mom/Dad" and when they respond, just do it. If you quiver under that, then yell screw it to yourself and do it.
This is also a reliable way to ask someone out, assuming you replace the name... but that's a bit off topic
 
Kingy
Well, should you or not?
You are you, you can do what you want to do. You can be what you want to be, no one is correct if they are trying to stop you. You can shine the way you want to.

But if you want an answer from me, go for it. If you are going to do it, good luck.

Regards,
TheKingy34
 
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DinohScene
You're going to lose family and friends with it.
Upside is, you'll filter out the fake friends from the real friends and you'll finally see how little family cares about you.

I didn't really had to much problems coming out as gay towards me mum n dad, family took it less ;/
I already was treated like scum by them so I never really bothered about it either ;')

Hey, just remember, you live for yourself not for others.
Fuck what other people think about you, it's your life and your happiness and if they can't take it then they can hang themselves.
 
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gudenau
Well, that is a surprise.

I would try to bring it up in a way that is not just "hey I'm transgender", but more like "there is this transgender thing, I am myself".

But it might not be a good idea to listen to me, I am a social mess myself. Best of luck!
 
Catastrophic
I don't mean to sound inconsiderate but I don't get what you're saying. Why would preferring norms from the opposite gender role be such a big deal? You're a certain sex, you like being like the other sex, who cares? Just have a talk with your parents and do what you enjoy doing.
 
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Alex S
Make sure that you have a backup plan if they dont agree.sometimes it can be very hard to get your parents to see eye to eye with you on things like this. Some people even explode.
 
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T
Hey bubs, here's my advice with it. I say pretty much what everyone else says, you are you, you make your own choices and make yourself happy. You do what you want and shouldn't care about what other people think of you. It should not change who you are to other people in any sort of way. If it does then we'll that is something they have to see get fixed. "stoopid donald dodo" more like "stoopid caring about what others think" :P. Honestly I think you should. Just do it, don't even think about it just go for it no matter what! All I can say is man up and get it over with. Well that's just my thoughts on it good luck bubs :D
 
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The Catboy
Coming out is honestly the hardest part, but once you do, things change. Trust me, it took years for me to out, but once I did, my personal life got so much better.
If your parents are open minded, I say come out. If not, it might be best to wait until you are in a safe place to come out to them. But always remember to be you, no matter what, you are always going to be you.
 
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G
You can come out, you can always go back in.
:^)
 
CosmoCortney
I asked my psychologist to invite me with my parents to be there with my coming out in the case I need help when I don't know what to say. It worked really well :)
IDK if you have a psychologist too... If you don't maybe an aunt or uncle you know that will be understanding and supportive could acompany you
 
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Catastrophic
It's honestly weird that matters like gender and sexuality are treated like such a big deal, but I think that's mostly because people are told to treat like a big deal. If people weren't told that it was a big deal, people wouldn't care and life would move on.
 
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Sonic Angel Knight
Who cares about sexuality or gender. Be yourself and be with people who like you. There nothing else to it. People make big deal out of it cause they don't see how it could work. Yes men have Ding dongs, and women have Funholes, and the intentional method of breeding is already addressed, but it doesn't stop people from having children and familes even if adoption isn't biological. People have rights and given oppitunities to allow the things that can make it work if supported.

Attractions isn't really gender based, is emotional and just being someone that people do like or you would like make people do the things they do. People change people, that how is always been. You could be facing the same problem telling family that you feel comfortable a certain way, just be what you feel comfortable being. Don't let people stop you from being happy. If they do, they don't really have a place in your life.
 
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