Is this okay to do? (a friends long distance concern)

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Okay, well here I go with another blog and I encourage anyone to leave an opinion on this, because I do want to know what you think. :3

I will try to make it short and to the point. xP

My friend Lina is currently dating a guy name Daniel. He lives in Canada. Lina has shown me pictures of them together and the letters she's received, etc. Oh! Daniel has been coming every 6 months to be with her for a full month each trip. They seem really cute together and stuff, perfect for each other, etc.

It's been a year or so that they've been together. Just letting you know the time.

Anyways, we go to the same school and we lunch together whenever we can with two other friends, Alberto and Julia. Well about 2 weeks ago or so, a guy name Mauri comes around every now and then and we all talk. He's nice but that's all I know of him. Well, last week, Mauri came to me and Julia and asked us "Hey, where's the Curly Girl?" which he was referring to Lina. We told him that she wasn't with us and probably somewhere else. He then said "Well let me know whenever she's with you all during lunch so I can come around." We just said "okay" and that was that.

It's a bit obvious that he may have a thing for Lina.

So Lina comes around and we tell her about Mauri. Lina just nodded and didn't seem to care much. Well here's the part where I'm concerned a bit.

These past few days, Julia and Alberto have been nudging on Lina about Mauri. Like, for instance if Mauri passes by, Julia will elbow Lina and wink at her indicating something. Lina told Julia "Nah. I have a boyfriend who i love and already occupies my heart.", Julia's response was "awww, so sweet". but even though Alberto and Julia know that Lina has a boyfriend, they keep messing with her about Mauri.

Now, Lina hasn't said anything to stop, she just goes with the flow.
To me it seems wrong but I have yet to tell Lina anything yet.
I mean, I'm sure nothing will happen between them but what do you all think? ;p

Put yourself in the position of Daniel. I'm sure he wouldn't like it.
and like I said, I do want to say something but I just wanted to hear some opinions from different folks.

Any input is appreciated. :D

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As much as I find long distance relationships unreliable due to that, I'll give my honest opinion.

Going with the flow by itself isn't exactly an issue, but keeping that up for too long will either hurt Mauri or Daniel in the long run. If Mauri really likes her, he'll be heartbroken when she goes for Daniel after building expectations, otherwise Daniel might get cucked without knowing or also left heartbroken.

She would better stop now if she has plans on keeping her relationship with Daniel IMO.

(But maybe I'm being biased here, after all, I did like a girl who lived in the opposite side of the country once, heh.)
 
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Sounds like she doesn't care and isn't concerned about him or your friends bugging her. That's pretty typical when you're comfortable and confident in a relationship. Doesn't seem like there's much to worry about.

If she's laid back and usually just goes with the flow, it's pretty normal she wouldn't be bothered with stopping them. She could also just be averse to confrontation.

If it bothers you, you could just say something to them when they do it like "Guys she already has a boyfriend, stop bugging her."
Sounds more like a game now to poke fun at her that the dude likes her than anything else though.

In Daniel's position I also wouldn't really care much. Hell i'd find it funny. "Poor guy, I know exactly what he's missing out on."
If they trust eachother there isn't likely to be an issue.
 
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@matpower Hmm, I do hope it isn't continued longer than it should. I'll be on the lookout just because I do care for my friend. Thank you for your input. =)

@Hells Malice You are right in that she has confidence in her relationship, she does brush off the pokes like "eh, okay."
But can this game of theirs influence someone else's mind?
Maybe. I just hope it is and Lina will do the right thing

I will see how things continue. Today no one bugged her.

Thank you for your input! ^_^
 
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I doubt them bugging her would influence anything, no. It would if there were cracks in her relationship or she had doubts, but it doesn't sound like she does really.

Also good for her dating a guy from the best country ;o;
 
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