I'm feeling...broken

Changing school isn't that bad, nobody knows anything about you, so I think you will be able to make friends easier. Just approach, say "Hello, wanna be friends?", unless I am very back in relationships

About your parents' health, I can only hope they get better

Lastly, boy(or girl for me)friends at such age are temporary, I think you should grow up a bit more and develop a deeper relationship with a person you know well and trust

so far, my only friends at my school are people who have the same interests as i do. try looking for someone that shares interests with you, you might be able to find a friend.

oops, double post

i understand how you feel :/
things aren't easy, and you should know that, don't have anything wrong with you, but with others, they are wrong, i hope you get better : )
one day the real friends always appear, you will meet nice people, people who will really like you!

I can partially relate to what you are feeling. My real self is really different from my online self. I have got zero friends in real life. Only difference is my parents don't have health issues. However, let me tell you one thing about friends. It doesn't matter if you have not found a friend in real life yet. You shall find a friend one day. It's bound to happen. And if you are lucky, you might even meet that person before you meet them, thanks to the internet. I stumbled into a person from wales. They are really good friends, but we can't exactly meet as of right now. However, one day we plan to meet, and to stay friends. Just keep going, and even if you feel broken now, remember, people care about you, and you will one day find someone that will make you feel not broken anymore. (Even if i am still a bit young to promise that it will happen, i promise it will happen)

When you mention how hard it is to make new friends, but the targets of your attempted friendship keep "ignoring you", I have to wonder if you're coming off too strongly. The one thing that seems to consistently put people off is when someone feels desperate for friendship, becoming too clingy. In my experience, the easiest way to make friends is to not kowtow to what you think people want you to be, but to just be yourself and let those who might enjoy your thoughts and your company to spend time talking with you. Being generally affable is a prerequisite, of course, but just being sweet to another person doesn't necessarily guarantee a relationship, especially if you're overly expressing an interest in friendship, which can come off as creepy. Personally, I find myself taking an interest in people regardless of how they feel about me just for the quality of their personage alone, and not exclusively because they wanted to be my friend. If they happen to get along with me, that's great, that's a new friend right there, but it's not something I hinge the entirety of my happiness upon.

That being said, I understand that it can be extremely difficult to maintain your personal composure when dealing with a stressful home life because of your parents' health problems, as well as the ending of a relationship. It's natural to want to reach out to seek comfort in others when you're feeling destabilized, and I truly don't mean to criticize you for that, just to say that this could very well be working against your attempts to form relationships at school. Unfortunately, I don't have much advise with regards to dealing with these two issues, other than that I think it could be beneficial to attempt to find solidarity within oneself rather than stressing about fixing things externally that you don't have the power to fix. How to develop that coping mechanism, though, seems to be unique to each person, so I don't know how to advise you further. Sorry. :\ People seem to react positively to emotional stability and confidence in others.

I don't know if any of that helped or gave some perspective, but I do hope things get better for you soon either way. You seem to be a fairly popular person here, and just based on what I've seen of you (which is not very much, admittedly), I anticipate you making irl friends eventually.

Be careful what you wish for.

You might do better just working on getting what you want out of life when you grow up.

I'm sorry about what you're going through.....

i'm pretty much in the same social situation. check out your telegram

It’s always hard to fit I but you need to learn how to adapt. It’s that simple.

As someone who went through a similar situation only a few years back, I understand. When I first went to my high school, I had no freaking Idea what to do... I was socially awkward (probably due to my social anxiety problems and my lateral lisp), and I only knew one person. Not to mention, I was absent a lot and eventually hospitalized due to medical problems. However, after a few years, I found that it eventually does get better. Even if you are not the social type, you will probably find someone who you are compatible with (in a friendly way), and that will eventually multiply exponentially until you reach senior year. I know from experience.... I'm currently a senior at my high school, and I now know everyone (at least, everyone who isn't an ass)... You just need to find that one person that will help you get out of your comfort zone, and help you make more friends


P.S. Forget that classmate who's ignoring you, they obviously aren't worth your time...

If I'm honest, most of the "friends" that I had in high school are no longer friends with me. I only see one of them, and that's rarely. When you get older you realize a lot of people were only friends with you just because it was convenient for them because they saw you every day. They weren't real friends. You don't need a lot of friends, just a few decent, real friends. Even just one is better than none. So, I wouldn't worry too much about trying to make a lot of friends.

I'm sorry to hear about your parents. I can only hope that things will get better for you and them. Sending you positive vibes.

That guy who was your "boyfriend" didn't sound like a very good person. Better to have broke it off now than too far down the road. I hope that you find someone who isn't a complete piece of shit and treats you well.

i had a sofa crash my ribs and back, then had a chimney stove dropped on my foot. been hurting a solid month now.

but just keep your chin up, say hi, smile a lot and everything with align into place. think positive

I used to move schools all of the time, I always saw them as a new beginning

nobody knew about anything dumb i'd done before and i could tell people many year's worth of jokes and look like the coolest dude on the block

Then again i can't really remember much because that was back in middle school and I can't remember things from like over 5 years ago.

It happens, life sucks bla bla bla
You know this will go away eventually. Go play video games or something in the meanwhile.
My year has been terrible also, but I haven't lost hope. Hope we can all be fine in the end.

hey, glad I got back on for the night.

I can relate to the friend thing, sorta,
I am horrible at making friends,
the best thing, I suggest,
is to possibly, go out on a limb, and say hi.
Sure you might be shy, (count as introvert?) I'm an Introvertedly loser,
But, Idc about life, im not gonna kill myself, I am not depressed.
But we worry as humans, too much, about keeping ourselves safe.

Irl, I am more out going, the reason is, I dont care.
I don't care if the hate me, comment about me.

You have got to learn when to care, and when to not care.

Hope I could help.

If you want, we can talk on discord, Im not rose buds, and flowers you know.

sorry for what has happened to you martina, i can see how you would be a shy girl irl.

i am 26 yo and i still am so bad in communicating with 'new' people but often it is mostly with ladies, i suck talking to them and i stutter and i cant even look them in the face , many of us are awkward in society i guess..?

i believe you are only 16 or so nay? you are still so young, there will be alot of ups and downs for you to come, you just gotta stay strong and never give up , your wounds will heal within time.

for some it can take years though i guess.
anyways stay strong and keep ya chin up, things will be just alright.

As harsh as it may sound, it sounds like you're just going through typical teenager stuff.
With a dash of social anxiety.

In the end, it's mostly all about how you deal with it yourself. School is the easiest time in life to make friends, in my opinion.
So make the most of that time.

Thanks everyone for all the support <3
Yeah so... I'm not saying that I'm depressed or something like that, I'm just feeling bad for this, I don't want to kill myself etc. Anyone can see that like a adolescent crisis, just normal for my age I think (I'm 14), I just spoke with an old friend who will come to my same school, she will help me with the shyness and I will try to be like normal to see if my classmates will speak to me like a normal person. Thanks again to everyone who give me all the tips <3

@Pacheko17 playing video games in this situation is probably the worst thing you could do

make friends, or at least do enough social stuff in this new school to get some connections