Tomorrow, the relationship shit goes down.

oh man.. how has she broken it? Kind of lost me what was up.... but please tell us!
And good luck!

Just hope that her "talk" isn't actually a beak-up from her!
You be the one that is ending the relationship!

I'm really sorry to hear you ended up with such a bad person, hopefully, next one will be complete opposite!

If you have already decided to end the relationship, don't bother listening to her little "talk". Stop her before she even starts and tell her to piss-off.

Don't explain ANYTHING to her. Just tell her it's over and goodbye. Believe me, not telling them anything pisses them off more than you can imagine and doesn't give them any fuel to add to their arguments/accusations. Besides, that way you can feel like you had the upper hand in the break up.

Fuck her "talk" just call her and tell her to get fucked, simple!

better to dump her then to be dumped

Meeting her at 2pm, 3 hours from now

I was planning to listen to her, because my suspicion that her "talk" is actually not going to be a breakup talk, maybe a winge or some shit.

But after listening to you guys, maybe I will just not give her the chance to speak, she doesn't deserve it after all.

I don't really know, I can't tell how i will react until i see her, maybe I will feel like to hold back and listen or maybe not.

... She hurt tme too many times, I couldn't describe it so easily. Maybe for another time I might have mentioned some of the stuff in previous blogs, I just can't remember if I said any details.

sometimes a break up frees you from a lot of things...I experienced this myself not too long ago
You can see clearer what's important in your life...

My big question is: are all relationships this crazy?

[quote name='Sonicslasher' post='1831505' date='Mar 16 2009, 09:19 PM']My big question is: are all relationships this crazy?[/quote]
No, they aren't. Mine wasn't at least. It was one year, then a clean cut away from her. She has better friends now...

[quote name='Sonicslasher' post='1831505' date='Mar 16 2009, 08:19 PM']My big question is: are all relationships this crazy?[/quote]


Only if you're doing it right.

/opinion

How old are you? I have a feeling there is more you still don't know, and it probably involves more than kissing. Make it a clean cut now.

[quote name='Lazycus' post='1831754' date='Mar 17 2009, 03:15 PM']How old are you? I have a feeling there is more you still don't know, and it probably involves more than kissing. Make it a clean cut now.[/quote]
I am 18, she is 20.

I don't think there is anything more than that... ...... No i can't think like this, it wouldn't really be surprising.

Fuck, now the sadness is setting in...

I don't understand... apparently before she met me she had only kissed 2 other guys, and only had sex with her ex.
So she meets me, then her personality changes and she suddenly decides that it is fun to be a fucking slut?

I just want to ask her now,
What made her change? Is it only because it hurts me? So if it didn't hurt me, would she think it ok to continue?
How can she know she isn't the same as then? Just pretending not to be for the sake of keeping me.

from my personal experience:


This is gonna hurt, but she was probably always a slut and always will be. The thing about sluts is, they are liars. She probably lied to you about her sexual experiences before you met ( i mean she lied about the ones while you were together AMIRITE?) It\'s not you it\'s her, it\'s this world we live in. You only hurt so bad b/c you built her up to be someone she\'s not, someone she will never be. Your best course of action is to find the person you are looking for, the person you wanted her to be. There will be more sluts along the way, you yourself will play the slut a time or two, but eventuality (god willing) you WILL find the one you are looking for. Do not give up, do not stray from the path of righteousness, the evil forces of this world will throw everything they got at you, it is your duty to resist, to fight, to carry on. All you can be is you, but you are righteous! Do not be drug down to their level, DO NOT GIVE IN.

Thank you for your masterful words.

She'll never be what I really want. I need someone to care about me to the same level. Someone who will be my best friend and my close lover. Someone I can have fun with and even through any arguments we can be the stronger, but most importantly someone who I can rely on, put my trust into and not get betrayed.

Good luck dude. I'm sure you'll find someone else. She really didn't deserve you the way she treated you.

Well, I've been trough similar stuff, and after that I've had friends with far worst experiences, and besides I have friends with wonderful experiences..

There isn't actually much to say because this is completely your call.....Whatever we tell you now, you're going to act by your instinct at given time, you ain't gonna listen us (I don't mean that in a bad way, it's a fact, that's the way that people react in such situations)..You can't prepare yourself when love is involved..

It's clear that you have feelings for this girl, but it seems that she actually doesn't give a shit about that..She just wants to have a good time (one-night-stand type of girl)..She's not the only girl in the world that is like that, there are really many many girls like that..But the thing is, you fell for her, and now it's hurting you..

The stuff you listed isn't the worst that could happen (tho it's really hurtful, I can understand that), and it's nothing un-repairable if the said person is showing any signs of the will to change..If she's really willing to change, it would be nice, but from what you wrote, it surely doesn't sound like that type of girl..
It sounds like she's having a good time, with you, your friends, everyone she feels like..and you're liking/loving her, and it's destroying you........You should just cut any connections with her, no friendship, no loving, no contact at all!
Well, that's what you should do, but in my opinion, I think you'll give here another chance after some time......

I just hope you won't end up hurt too much!

Good luck mate!

Wow, feel sorry man. Well maybe things got too fast and and the relationship was kinda only "sex mate" relationship for her...

How did you manage to get an older girl at your age? Well people do get older girlfriends than themselves, and I dont see any problem with that. But it usually happens at 21+(alot of people around 25 that I know). (I feel like that younger girls are more interested into older boys.. well in my case.)

And as Toni said, its your call. You decide, you follow your instinct. Even if you make a wrong decision, things can get better after some time. So do not rush into anything.

If it was me I would MAKE HER SUFFER, but hey thats me... its entirely up to you.

We are both in the same year of uni. she is older because when she moved from china to aus, she lost some high school time or something. On the other hand I skipped a grade lol.

Well, somehow she took my hug and words the other day to mean that i will give her another chance and that we are back together.

Because, last night she called me and we spoke on the phone, suddenly she asked, "we are back together right?" and I just didn't have the heart to say no, so I said "yes".

I am friends with her high school friends now, and one of her friends is quite understanding and supportive of me. He suggested that I give her a chance, but that I test her, see if she will do the same thing in a similar situation again (party etc) so i can finally have some closure to see if she nhas changed. And if i found out bad news again I'd never talk to her again.

PS: I'm feeling so ill right now. She was very sweet in taking care of me when she saw me so I'm happy. I know I'm simple and easy sometimes.

[quote name='OSW' post='1834559' date='Mar 18 2009, 10:47 AM']We are both in the same year of uni. she is older because when she moved from china to aus, she lost some high school time or something. On the other hand I skipped a grade lol.

Well, somehow she took my hug and words the other day to mean that i will give her another chance and that we are back together.

Because, last night she called me and we spoke on the phone, suddenly she asked, "we are back together right?" and I just didn't have the heart to say no, so I said "yes".

I am friends with her high school friends now, and one of her friends is quite understanding and supportive of me. He suggested that I give her a chance, but that I test her, see if she will do the same thing in a similar situation again (party etc) so i can finally have some closure to see if she nhas changed. And if i found out bad news again I'd never talk to her again.

PS: I'm feeling so ill right now. She was very sweet in taking care of me when she saw me so I'm happy. I know I'm simple and easy sometimes.[/quote]
Hope it works out for you.

Hm, she sounds a little bit like someone I know. She's fairly immature, and at first comes across as someone quite innocent, but after not too long you find out she's a slut who uses guys all the time.
Don't get me wrong, she's a nice person who's fantastic as a friend, but I've been careful to stay out of her sex life.
I guess for some people it's a massive struggle to keep off members of the opposite sex, and there's not much you can do there. I guess if you think you truly love her, then it's worth sticking by her through it, but it doesn't honestly sound like a fulfilling relationship you'd expect from two people who love each other.

My big question is: are all relationships this crazy?

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Depends if the people in it are crazy aha, as is pretty obvious. After a month with my girlfriend and knowing her for 6 months, I can't ever see me having a serious argument with her, we just get on far too well. So yeah, in my experience you don't tend to get as many arguments as the OP has had, I guess OSW is just unlucky :\.