friends? how do i get some?

just like how i'm with girls.

But i'm trying to change though.

Eh, I'm the same. The most you can do is just try to force yourself to talk to people who initiate a conversation, starting one yourself might be too much right now so just practice answering people when they talk to you and maintaining a conversation. When you feel comfortable enough talking, then move on.

it used to be veeeery easy in highschool. don't know exactly when this started, but it's in college.

At least your social awkwardness didn't start until after High School. Barely anybody ever talks to me, and the few that do, I am too awkward to talk with. Theres this girl I know, who I talk to all the time on facebook, but haven't had a conversation longer than "Hi, what's up, later" irl.
Feelsbadman

im exactly like this.

I'm also socially awkward. I've had some bad experience with people around me...

Don't forget we are all you friends here Narayan

You need to find someone with common interests. It can be hard if you close yourself like that.
But I do pretty much the same thing. For me I do a similar thing. I listen to what people talk about.
Get a general idea. Then if I'm interested I might say something. But not a lot interests me.

I'm in business studies right now and I'm the only guy. I really don't find anything interesting about
these girls so I don't want to be friends with them. For me atleast I need someone to relate to in some way.

Edit: If someone asks you to introduce yourself. Start with you Name, get theirs, ask them what they like and reply in turn.

You're socially awkward? You're the one always giving me advice though! xD It's not bad advice either...

I have the same problem though. I don't like talking to people.

Try and get in touch with people outside of your own town? I feel comfortable when I know it doesn't matter what impression I'll make, since those people will most absoluting likely not be a part of my life after that time. Could be an easy way to ramp up and gain some self-confidence.

School clubs? I don't really do any of that stuff, but I know a ton of people that are in several that've made quite a few friends from it.
Are we talking like absolute zero people in the friend area or are we talking a low amount of friends? There's a difference, you know.

not school clubs, classmates.
and i'm talking about zero friends. when i arrive to school i sit in a corner, sometimes read something, sometimes play w/ psp, or just arrive on time to avoid waiting. then i go to class, listen to the teacher, then go home.

I can't relate, I literally made friends with one guy in 20 minutes, and we hung out that entire day.

[quote name='SonicXXXthehedgehog' timestamp='1321378605'] I can't relate, I literally made friends with one guy in 20 minutes, and we hung out that entire day. [/quote]well, it's like i don't feel the need of having friends, so i don't properly respond to people. i think.
sometimes i do wish i have one, but i don't know what to talk about, since all i just do is read manga, watch anime, play games. and there aren't a lot that do that stuff.
but if you talk to me in a professional way, like it's just business, i'd respond properly.
it seems like i forgot how to be social.
or people around me just don't interest me.

Well my personality is similar to yours so I guess I can understand what you are going through .

First of all I guess the reason you probably respond to people (or at least it was mainly in my case) is cause of some sort of self-defense mechanism developed to protect yourself from humiliation or being made fun off . As you said you know your interests aren't that common around so you are probably afraid if you talk alot people will know & they might make fun of you & since you already used to be alone you feel the risk isn't worth it , and the more you stay alone the more you will fell the risk isn't worth it .

Anyway weather my guess is right or wrong I suggest that you do the same thing I did in highschool & just look around in your class and see the if there is someone or a small group that even slightly interest you and try to slowly hang with them .You don't need to be really close with them just know them enough to hangout while in college , talk about college stuff & general stuff and you will get to know them .If you like them then go ahead & start hanging with them outside college & if not then you will have some people to give you company while in college .

Im your friend
Nara-kun

Friends are difficult to make especially if you don't know how to express yourself. My only advice is just speak calmly and keep the subject simple.

People won't really call you stupid or ridicule you for speaking out unless you have no idea what you're talking about (chiming into a pc vs mac argument when you don't know anything about computers).

[quote name='Jehuty25' timestamp='1321478061'] People won't really call you stupid or ridicule you for speaking out unless you have no idea what you're talking about (chiming into a pc vs mac argument when you don't know anything about computers). [/quote]
oh yes, they talk things about them and their other friends.

[quote name='Ravte' timestamp='1321312550'] Try and get in touch with people outside of your own town? I feel comfortable when I know it doesn't matter what impression I'll make, since those people will most absoluting likely not be a part of my life after that time. Could be an easy way to ramp up and gain some self-confidence. [/quote] thats so true....