Don't regret for the rest of you life!

I have spoken to a lot of dying old people, and a fair few dying young people. Sometimes with the wonderful lack of filter that both dying and dementia cause.
Always seems to be grass is greener
Why did I marry that bitch, why didn't I go with her
Why did I work all the time, why didn't have take it easier (travel more, do more non work activities)
Why didn't I have kids, my kids are a bunch of ingrates
Why did I get fat/party hard, what good did living like a puritan do me?
Why did I spend all the time at school, why didn't I do that course
and on and on and on. Heard it all.

As far as love then... basically a fantasy at this point, something your grandparents might have seen or something you would have to put in an awful lot of time and effort to find. How many marriages (what few happen) end in divorce? As as hint we are probably north of 50%, relationships not much better. See also "micro divorce" (anything not bolted down, plus a few things besides, though seemingly leave the bed is a popular one), to say nothing of the insanity like that Canadian case a while back or the whole "common law" nonsense.
Play the field or do what you feel. Make your focus you and you probably won't go too wrong though, though it can be a hard path to walk.

@FAST6191 "The life is like a box of Chocolate, you will never know which one you get next".

many people live with the regret for didn't tried when they were young or afraid to find out the consequence of they choice, this feeling only grows stronger when they are getting older.

I wish to encourage people here to make a move toward the person they like, if they haven't done already, before it's too late.

True @leon315 . but now I regret having the one I picked to be with. Oh well...

@OldBoi really? then I highly recommend you a divorce lawyer tho LMFAO.

But DON'T LIE, the price you pay now worth all the earlier sex, right? lmfao

yep, sex with someone you've been with for years is like a rollercoaster, "We were only riding for maybe a minute before we were desperate to get off."

if you last only one minute, now you find the reason why ur partner wants to break from you!!!!!!

Waaaaaaah waaaaaaah waaaaaah me n @BigOnYa gotta break up! Waaaaah------- Just kidding Big. LoL

I'm committed to my couch now only, sorry.

I suppose the couch has been there through all the good films and not asked "what is happening?" every 3 minutes, did not complain when paused to go take a piss, has maybe only gobbled the odd chocolate bar rather than all my nice food, has only cost a few coins that fell into it, didn't complain when you spewed next to it one night, does not need expensive shampoos, actually knows the real meaning of "support" and does that all day or night. Can also be kicked out on the street without much complaint when I find a better/younger one at an auction or something, be joined by another or even when I experiment with making my own day bed.


Couches... pretty sweet.

Neat post - glad the video inspired you to take action in your life! I agree with the sentiment as well. Not sure how old you are (or anyone else in the thread, for that matter), but I can certainly remember my younger years when I spent far too long silently obsessing over crushes. The reality is that we're all just humans, each with our own flaws. Whoever you are thinking of right now is the same, which means (whether you realize it or not) you've seen their flaws, but think of them as "perfect" anyway. Once you realize that you have the capacity to do that, you begin to think of crushes as more of a temporary, comes-and-goes kind of a thing. You have the capability to accept someone - what makes them special to you is actually you!

Additionally, the true joy in any romantic relationship is the social intimacy that comes along with it, and you will never experience that from afar. You will have a much more fulfilling experience actually dating someone you are initially only, say, 80% interested in, than you will constantly pining over your 100% SSS rank from afar. The responsibility you have to yourself is to be aware of this, and, when the time comes, be openminded enough to give that 80% a chance.

Also, boys/girls: Anything other than a "yes" is a "no." I know that you won't believe me if you didn't accept this already (I didn't at the time), but really, it's true. Please save yourself the time and hassle. Anything other than a plain "yes" is a "no." It's one of the few things in life that can be happily boiled down to black and white.

Everything above isn't coming from regrets, simply experience. Take it for what you will.

Also, from the other posts in this thread I can see that we are indeed approaching Valentine's Day:

I like Salt, best served with steaks!

Worst strategy ever, never tell a girl that you like her. Spend time with her and wait for the moment.

@PityOnU What would you say to someone who's living in a household where, while they may let you date someone who's not a part of their "brand" of Christianity for one or two dates, they don't necessarily want you marrying that person? Because that's one aspect of where I'm at right now.

The other aspect is the lockdowns and how they've affected the kinds of jobs available atm, and how mobile one can be in the world if one wants to move up, move out, or just change their standing in life in general. I sure hope one of these days people can go back to normal and not have to wear a mask out in public all the damn time, but still. All of this, combined with the fact that the kinds of girls that my parents really want me to date...wouldn't exactly appreciate me playing some of the video games or watching some of the movies I tend to watch, I'd say my romantic options while still under my parents' roof is quite limited, tbh. And that's not going into their desire for children because it says "this and this here in the Bible about children being a blessing, arrows in the quiver," the whole nine yards. I only go to church at this point because of their "it's my house, my rules," mindset, and then you throw in the fact that there's a secret that I've kept from them regarding...well...um...the "experience" I've gained from a relationship with a girl two years ago that is only supposed to be for marriage.

Said "experience" was mostly driven by a more YOLO mindset, and a sense of regret out of the thought that, if I died an unfortunate early death, I at least wanted to experience the fairer sex's more...unique aspects, if you know what I mean. Ever since I've done that, my desire for a relationship with said fairer sex, when combined with the lockdowns, the amount of debt I just got myself out of and my still being stuck under my parents' roof thanks to the changes in the world, all come together and have made my desire for a relationship much lower than what it used to be. I'm not scared of COVID myself, so it has nothing to do with that. It just has to do with not being a virgin anymore, and having no desire for some of the things "traditional" or "normal" women want.


IDK, this post is all over the place, but I'm sort of trying to type this out as quick as I can without my parents walking in and seeing what I'm typing. Because while IDK if I'd get booted out of the house for doing what I did, I'd definitely be treated worse than I am right now, and all things considered, I'm doing a lot better than others who are in the same conglomeration of fundamentalist Baptist churches I unfortunately was born into.

@EduAAA it's obvious you never tell a girl you like her! only tard would do that way, a true gentleman says "you like her smile and wish to spend tomorrow with her along good wise and a lot of ROSES", anyone could get it.

If she says NO, you can still get drunk with the bottle LMFAO

But the entire point was: don't miss the opportunity, instead let other guys got ur crash 1st!

This video is a lol!

@tempBOT
I love you.

My biggest regret was asking a girl she said yes and now I'm stuck with this monster bitch.

Salt. Now that movie amused me. Loved every minute of it. Wish there was a second.

@SG854 Uhh...you aren't hearing the Song of Saya, are you?

@Silent_Gunner

That's a difficult situation to be in. Sorry you're having to deal with that.

In my younger years, while also still being reliant on/living with my parents, I dated someone they didn't approve of. It got to the point that I had to pretend I had broken up with them, while continuing to see them in secret. This continued for about a year before we finally broke it off for reasons which were only semi-related to that.

All things considered, I would not do it again. However, that's just a personal opinion based on my own views and desires from a relationship, and there is no way I would make that a blanket recommendation in every case. To consider if this is useful insight for you and your case, here is my (potentially flawed) thought process:

First, if I am to be romantically involved with someone, it is because I am interested in them as a person, and hopefully it is likewise from their perspective. As such, I would want both of us to have full freedom to make decisions and take action in the relationship as we each personally see fit. After all, at the end of the day, the relationships (especially the romantic ones) I form with others are something that is meant for me and me alone - no third parties should have a say in them as they are not directly experiencing them. If I am in a situation where I am still reliant on others who have some authority and social influence over my life (my parents), then I cannot fully be myself in these relationships because, at the end of the day, someone other than me will have the final say (or at least a large influence) over what is "acceptable." That is fundamentally incompatible with being able to fully express myself, which is one of the key features of an intimate relationship. So, for me, I decided I wouldn't date while I was still reliant on my parents.

Second, while I can choose my friends or my spouse, I can't choose my family - at least the one I inherited at birth. Because of this, barring extreme circumstances, I should prioritize maintaining my familial relationships, because they will be my family forever, no matter what. That means that, in cases where my family's will would conflict with that of whoever I was dating, I should always side with my family. This goes back to the previous point of third parties having too much influence in the relationship, and also made me decide not to date while I was still living my family. Once no longer living with my family, I would be able to date "on my own terms," and only introduce my romantic partner to my family once the relationship had progressed to a point where I was willing to go to bat over them (i.e. they were potential future family).

Third, it was just a lot of stress. And a lot of lying - specifically to the people I was closest to. I would never break up with someone for something that wasn't "their fault." My family not liking them (at least, in my case), was not through any fault of their own, just a general incompatibility. So I ended up holding on because I believed (and still do) that it was the right thing to do. But that put an extreme amount of pressure on the relationship, and probably influenced my decisions related to it (see points one and two for why this is a bad thing). I realized that the problem was that I would never really know of compatibility between partner/family until I was already in the relationship, and therefore not willing to break up, meaning that the whole mess could repeat itself again in the future. So, yet another reason I chose not to date while still reliant on my parents.

Again, this is not blanket advice, it's just what worked for me. Once I moved out and later became independent from my family (those are two different things!) life changed a lot because I felt confident in being able to truly be myself and not having anyone else who could stop me or tell me otherwise. That took a long time, though, so my solution/views here might not be for everyone. This also changes from culture to culture as well. I'm American, so moving out while still single is relatively normal. In other cultures, not so much.