I hate doing this but this is one of those places I feel I can put down whatever and nobody traces it back to me and I can see what large amounts of people think of the situation from the outside. So here goes.
There's a girl I like who is one of my best friends. I really enjoy hanging out with her and have wished it could be more since a situation that was a bit of a mess about a year ago. I just always seem to pick the worst times to decide I need to talk to her about it. *sigh* This time the complication is an ex of hers from before she moved to my school. He found her on facebook, got in touch and has since made himself a bit of a pest. He's said he's sorry for breaking up for her 3 years ago and still loves her *cough*bullshit*cough* and wants to start again. He was alright when me and some other folk met him but then afterwards he got really creepy... He was constantly texting Catty then phoning her if she didn't reply quickly enough for him (control freak much?) He hates me because when I met him my friend was letting me be more, friendly, than usual in an attempt to put him off. He now basically thinks I'm a girlfriend stealing cunt (even though she is NOT his girlfriend she's just too polite to tell him to buzz off). Despite all this crap however I think she obviously prefers him to me because he is A) Buff and B) Not a complete wuss. I think she's considering going along with his offer of getting back together but she's still worried all he wants to do is get her in bed.
I've talked to mutual friends about this crap and they basically fall on my side in this. Saying they'd rather it was me she went out with than this dick. One says I should wait until it blows over before doing anything, another says I should just go for it and I'm sorely tempted to go with the latter but shitscared of 2 things. 1) Rejection, which I think is really likely in my paranoid, self-doubting mind. 2) Ruining one of the best friendships I've ever had. She knows I like her, its not that hard to figure out tbh, so I don't really know what to say to her...
PLEASE HELP HITSQUAD!!!
There's a girl I like who is one of my best friends. I really enjoy hanging out with her and have wished it could be more since a situation that was a bit of a mess about a year ago. I just always seem to pick the worst times to decide I need to talk to her about it. *sigh* This time the complication is an ex of hers from before she moved to my school. He found her on facebook, got in touch and has since made himself a bit of a pest. He's said he's sorry for breaking up for her 3 years ago and still loves her *cough*bullshit*cough* and wants to start again. He was alright when me and some other folk met him but then afterwards he got really creepy... He was constantly texting Catty then phoning her if she didn't reply quickly enough for him (control freak much?) He hates me because when I met him my friend was letting me be more, friendly, than usual in an attempt to put him off. He now basically thinks I'm a girlfriend stealing cunt (even though she is NOT his girlfriend she's just too polite to tell him to buzz off). Despite all this crap however I think she obviously prefers him to me because he is A) Buff and B) Not a complete wuss. I think she's considering going along with his offer of getting back together but she's still worried all he wants to do is get her in bed.
I've talked to mutual friends about this crap and they basically fall on my side in this. Saying they'd rather it was me she went out with than this dick. One says I should wait until it blows over before doing anything, another says I should just go for it and I'm sorely tempted to go with the latter but shitscared of 2 things. 1) Rejection, which I think is really likely in my paranoid, self-doubting mind. 2) Ruining one of the best friendships I've ever had. She knows I like her, its not that hard to figure out tbh, so I don't really know what to say to her...
PLEASE HELP HITSQUAD!!!