Help me decide

Hmm, are you friends with any of her friends? I would ask them what they think first, I have known the girl that I liked best friends since before I even met this girl so they were all telling me to take her to Prom and stuff so I did. It didn't turn out the way I thought it would but it was still an experience. Basically, if you don't care if you get shot down just do it, or if you want to know more about her and maybe do a little detective work to see what other people think then I would wait.


Either way, ask her to hang out a couple times before you just go to her and ask her out, you definitely want to get to know her more. If you are having friends over for a fire or something, be sure to invite her. Talking to a girl is a lot more easier in an environment with friends because friends always try to help you out and it won't be so awkward.

Yeah I was thinking of inviting her to go get coffee or something small with me one day at lunch. I really would like to get to know her better but don't have any friends in her peer group.

[quote name='Hedgehogofchaos' post='1994501' date='May 22 2009, 04:49 AM']PS. I was thinking of inviting her for coffee on day at lunch.[/quote]

Do it, but if its your first time. Bring friends along with you.

I learned the hard way, The girl I liked asked me to go and run some errands with her, it was the first time I hung out with her and I hung out with her by myself, God, I was a fucking wreck. I think she knew from there that I liked her. I don't really like her too much anymore, we are just good friends, (if you read a few topics down there is one titled "Prom", its all written in there) so I am fine hanging out with her by myself now.

But yeah, invite her for some Coffee and bring a friend or two along. You should invite a friend and have her invite a friend so if things get to awkward you have someone to talk to you and sooner or later a conversation should start between you and that friend that everyone can get involved in.

Yeah that sounds like a plan. But should a bring a guy friend or a girl?
Some of my guy friends can say the totally wrong things, but I dont want her to think that i'm dating my friend.

Edit: Yeah I read your prom topic already, thankfully I have two years until then.

[quote name='Hedgehogofchaos' post='1994537' date='May 22 2009, 05:16 AM']Yeah that sounds like a plan. But should a bring a guy friend or a girl?
Some of my guy friends can say the totally wrong things, but I dont want her to think that i'm dating my friend.

Edit: Yeah I read your prom topic already, thankfully I have two years until then.[/quote]

Hmmm, I don't know. I can see where you are coming from about bringing a girl and also about bringing a guy. I would say just bring a guy friend because if you explain the situation to your friend I am pretty sure he won't ruin it. I know my friends aren't like that at least, they were all very supportive and tried to help me out when I told them that I liked that girl.

In college one of my friends liked a girl but didn't know her or any of her friends (same age but she was in the year group below). Anyway after around a week or so of him constantly considering whether to approach her I more or less convinced him to just walk up to her and talk to her (we caught her on her own waiting for someone/something) so he did and now we're all very good friends. That isn't to say that things will/won't be even better to you (people are different - duh) but really, you have a big advantage in that you both share the same class and as such it isn't unusual to want to get to know her. You can use that as an excuse to talk to her (especially as you wouldn't be making up false excuses/lines and wouldn't be viewed as being too forceful). Once you're on speaking terms you'll find it easier to ask her out, if not the other way round.

[quote name='Hedgehogofchaos' post='1994485' date='May 21 2009, 09:37 PM']Whenever our eyes make contact she looks away and starts play with her hair, her pen, etc.[/quote]
I had the same thing happen to me a few days ago, but I wasn't sure if she was looking at me or the clock .

Good topic starter: ask for help about that class you two are taking even if you don't need help.