So well, i pretty much was pissed the whole day bout this so i will just make a blog post.
So to start, back when i was like 12, when skylanders was the shit, i used to waste all my money on skylander figurines, which made my parents think, you cannot trust me any money, which they still think and do till today.
I use currently an LG G2, which we own since release, which is now over 5 years back. Its casing is pretty broken (a chunk of it is missing at a corner and you can now look into the phone) and i asked my parents if i am allowed to get a new phone, where they said no, since it is still useable.
Here comes the first time i got angry about money waste.
SO my parents told me that i wasnt allowed to get a new phone since its still useable. Okay, thats fine, yes. But my parents bought in the past 3 months 4 phones, not cause the old ones were unusable no, they just wanted a new one. I was thinking then, could i have one of the old ones, but yeah you can forget that. My parents rarely give my old phones from them (thats why my lg g2 is my 3rd phone i ever had).
That made me pretty angry, but this thing shoots the bird even more:
A few weeks ago, my parents asked me if i could just casually lend them 800€.
Think about it, EIGHT HUNDRED EUROS.
Thats not a small amount of money.
So i asked my brother how much money he has left of his 200€ if he could lend a bit too, he ofc told me why they wanted to lend 800€. He wanted to get the Note 9 for that fortnite skin, better said to preorder the phone.
I ofc said my parents that i wont lend them that money, since you know, i aint allowed to buy a new phone but my brother is allowed to buy a 1000€ phone without even having 1000€.
Then, which was a bit earlier, when we knew how much money i get in a month from this september on:
I will get monthly 250€ but am only allowed to use max 50€ a month, cause of the reason i wrote at the very beginning of this blog.
Here is what i am thinking:
My parents want me to get independent, but set strict rules how to use my money.
If they want me to get independent, why dont they allow me to use my money how i want to use it, and if i am out of it, it is my problem, since i got to learn how to use money. But my parents dont think about that, that i could use full money access as basically a lesson how i have to spend my money, as example, if my parents would now say that i gotta pay for my food, but i got full access to my bank account, i would firstly calculate how much money i have to at least waste for food and later, when i move out, tax bills and so on, and with the left over money, that i can save that, or buy something.
The hardest it hit me today tho. Nvidia made their RTX announcement, and since iw anted to upgrade my pc for a while now i thought i could get a 2070. Well guess what. My parents think this is a money waste.
I am not the only one in this family who wants a PC upgrade, my dad wants one too, so he should atleast know why i want it, but he was the one saying it to me.
I just went to him and told him, if he wants to upgrade his pc so bad but has no money left since he bought so many phones, its not my problem, he shouldn't have bought the phones.
But the one who should be complaining between me and my dad is me. Since its not my fault that i cannot upgrade, when money use is restricted for me. if i waste my money and cant get something i need, its my fault, like in my dads case.
tl;dr: My parents dont trust me with money since i wated lots of it when i was 12 and cause of thet restrict me from money use, want me to be independent but dont use it as a lesson by giving me full access to learn how to use it, but bought multiple phones since they wanted them
So to start, back when i was like 12, when skylanders was the shit, i used to waste all my money on skylander figurines, which made my parents think, you cannot trust me any money, which they still think and do till today.
I use currently an LG G2, which we own since release, which is now over 5 years back. Its casing is pretty broken (a chunk of it is missing at a corner and you can now look into the phone) and i asked my parents if i am allowed to get a new phone, where they said no, since it is still useable.
Here comes the first time i got angry about money waste.
SO my parents told me that i wasnt allowed to get a new phone since its still useable. Okay, thats fine, yes. But my parents bought in the past 3 months 4 phones, not cause the old ones were unusable no, they just wanted a new one. I was thinking then, could i have one of the old ones, but yeah you can forget that. My parents rarely give my old phones from them (thats why my lg g2 is my 3rd phone i ever had).
That made me pretty angry, but this thing shoots the bird even more:
A few weeks ago, my parents asked me if i could just casually lend them 800€.
Think about it, EIGHT HUNDRED EUROS.
Thats not a small amount of money.
So i asked my brother how much money he has left of his 200€ if he could lend a bit too, he ofc told me why they wanted to lend 800€. He wanted to get the Note 9 for that fortnite skin, better said to preorder the phone.
I ofc said my parents that i wont lend them that money, since you know, i aint allowed to buy a new phone but my brother is allowed to buy a 1000€ phone without even having 1000€.
Then, which was a bit earlier, when we knew how much money i get in a month from this september on:
I will get monthly 250€ but am only allowed to use max 50€ a month, cause of the reason i wrote at the very beginning of this blog.
Here is what i am thinking:
My parents want me to get independent, but set strict rules how to use my money.
If they want me to get independent, why dont they allow me to use my money how i want to use it, and if i am out of it, it is my problem, since i got to learn how to use money. But my parents dont think about that, that i could use full money access as basically a lesson how i have to spend my money, as example, if my parents would now say that i gotta pay for my food, but i got full access to my bank account, i would firstly calculate how much money i have to at least waste for food and later, when i move out, tax bills and so on, and with the left over money, that i can save that, or buy something.
The hardest it hit me today tho. Nvidia made their RTX announcement, and since iw anted to upgrade my pc for a while now i thought i could get a 2070. Well guess what. My parents think this is a money waste.
I am not the only one in this family who wants a PC upgrade, my dad wants one too, so he should atleast know why i want it, but he was the one saying it to me.
I just went to him and told him, if he wants to upgrade his pc so bad but has no money left since he bought so many phones, its not my problem, he shouldn't have bought the phones.
But the one who should be complaining between me and my dad is me. Since its not my fault that i cannot upgrade, when money use is restricted for me. if i waste my money and cant get something i need, its my fault, like in my dads case.
tl;dr: My parents dont trust me with money since i wated lots of it when i was 12 and cause of thet restrict me from money use, want me to be independent but dont use it as a lesson by giving me full access to learn how to use it, but bought multiple phones since they wanted them
