I'm sure there is a few problems with this and will update it later when I can think better, sorry if i'm not making much sense at the moment, but i realise there is no save function for this post, but i can post edit later. 
Continue where i left off at with my talk about my problems with Aspergers syndrome and socialzation, i must point out something. What are the basics to talking to other people? Well i learned some in school, in the counsolers office... (I spent almost all my time in there for very good reason) Besides what i learned in school, i been wondering myself the question, so for me this is a revisit on this personally. Since i decided to know such things, i figured i look for the answer. Some may find it a little weird but oh well, i talk to my adroid tablet. It also talks back but you know what i mean if you seen the google commercials, "Ok google, how do i do ______" Anyway i asked, apperently i found this app in the play store called wikihow. Basically is the "How to do anything" app, and boy what i found is not bad. I advise anyone interested in knowing just about anything to try it least once.
Back on topic, what i was saying is i could ask it about social skills. But before i talk about it i will save it for later and talk about what i already know. One thing i know is asking question is a good way to be social while i would say it does help sometimes it gets people in trouble. I won't talk about how it does here but i have feeling you already know, if you don't take a peek at the 3DS section noob paradise.
First people may ask questions for various reasons. I ask to learn things, given i get a reply from it, it show i'm willing to listen to people if they wish to speak, it helps extend a conversation. To some is also known to cause trouble, is considered annoying to some people which is personal reason one may not be aware of when asking said question, is also possible that is sarcasm intentional, or just as joke. Between it all and for whatever reason is just how one convey and one recieves it, it can cause confusion.
Now I ask questions to people, my reasons for asking different each time, sometimes is cause i wish to know something they know, sometimes is to show interest in someone, with intention to extend conversation as well as show care or concern. Sometimes is a joke that i hope they will understand. But i don't do it to just be asking and waste people time. I don't like when people do it to me and i don't do it to you/them. Just observing some people here i notice how some reply to questions, while being fair and related to facts, we all are on oppisite sides of the screen and we don't know what the other is thinking always, so assuming negative intentions behind it based on observation is not always fair. Asuming one is "Trolling" (making a statement to someone with intention to instigate problem) by what they choose to ask and say is wrong, cause we also have the choice to answer them or ignore it.
Once again is all down to the individual to make the choices to what questions they ask and how they respond, yes is common, there even fair points of arguement to blame the other but most can be avoiding conflict if they just be bit more obvious with it. Is simple to make things clear to understand, if you don't wanna talk, if you feel they bother you, if you feel comfort in the interest with you, just say so. There many times in school where i can't ask questions without someone saying "Go look it up yourself" the most common use response which just shows me they either don't know, don't wish to say, or somehow I offended them when i did not intend to, while i just needed to know quickly, wish to discuss or show concern.
It could just be said that they don't know, or they just don't want to talk. IS fine, but it doesn't have to go with misunderstanding, yeah i understand people are free to do, think, feel and assume and such on their own, but is just that way that leads to more problems, weather is personally themself creating their own problems (Introverted ) or for others in future. (extrovert) either way is just how people choose things, not everyone is easy to communicate with, trust me i know full well some have easier time and hard times. Is most of the times not even related to mentalitly problems doctors diagnose people with. If you ask me is all luck, just like in video games, RPG random encounters? more like that.
Bottom line, if i ask you a question, is for a reason. Yes i ask question maybe you feel i should know or i could simply look up on my own, truth is, i hate doing that. Is not as comforting doing that, i prefer to talk to people who can respond, it helps me to understand better than just looking up stuff people said, but no way to contact for any other info i may need or wish to discuss when i get more information to question. If someone is sick and i ask what they got or what it means, i'm asking cause i care and i wish to discuss it, if you do not, feel free to say so, or ignore the question, but is not needed to respond with negative intention.
I can see maybe i ask the wrong question, maybe too many, i don't know what someone else is thinking, i may not always understand what others convey but i try to, some people just don't give the time of day, give people a chance to do it, show is possible that good can come from things, i been around people who are quick to judge negaively and harsh, for whatever their own reasons are i wouldn't know, is not always fair to assume someone should know either cause you do, or thay have reasons to. In the end is each person who have choices to respond with different things and don't need to be offended by it. With out relating to any mental disorders, is common among people who been considered normal, and i have been up until certain point in my life when doctor made diagnosis, even before then such things has happend to people, they didn't even have diagnoses until much late in life and just cause they know it now after diagnosis, doesn't mean they should be having any different time than they were now. I know sometimes knowing some things and not knowing some things make people themslf and people around them behave different. But not every thing learned or ignored does that.
Continue where i left off at with my talk about my problems with Aspergers syndrome and socialzation, i must point out something. What are the basics to talking to other people? Well i learned some in school, in the counsolers office... (I spent almost all my time in there for very good reason) Besides what i learned in school, i been wondering myself the question, so for me this is a revisit on this personally. Since i decided to know such things, i figured i look for the answer. Some may find it a little weird but oh well, i talk to my adroid tablet. It also talks back but you know what i mean if you seen the google commercials, "Ok google, how do i do ______" Anyway i asked, apperently i found this app in the play store called wikihow. Basically is the "How to do anything" app, and boy what i found is not bad. I advise anyone interested in knowing just about anything to try it least once.
Back on topic, what i was saying is i could ask it about social skills. But before i talk about it i will save it for later and talk about what i already know. One thing i know is asking question is a good way to be social while i would say it does help sometimes it gets people in trouble. I won't talk about how it does here but i have feeling you already know, if you don't take a peek at the 3DS section noob paradise.
First people may ask questions for various reasons. I ask to learn things, given i get a reply from it, it show i'm willing to listen to people if they wish to speak, it helps extend a conversation. To some is also known to cause trouble, is considered annoying to some people which is personal reason one may not be aware of when asking said question, is also possible that is sarcasm intentional, or just as joke. Between it all and for whatever reason is just how one convey and one recieves it, it can cause confusion.
Now I ask questions to people, my reasons for asking different each time, sometimes is cause i wish to know something they know, sometimes is to show interest in someone, with intention to extend conversation as well as show care or concern. Sometimes is a joke that i hope they will understand. But i don't do it to just be asking and waste people time. I don't like when people do it to me and i don't do it to you/them. Just observing some people here i notice how some reply to questions, while being fair and related to facts, we all are on oppisite sides of the screen and we don't know what the other is thinking always, so assuming negative intentions behind it based on observation is not always fair. Asuming one is "Trolling" (making a statement to someone with intention to instigate problem) by what they choose to ask and say is wrong, cause we also have the choice to answer them or ignore it.
Now one example is for me to ask someone how they are doing, and is up to them to either
"Hello there, I'm doing good, i had a nice comfortable day so far, no problems at all."
So far you see they are in good mood, perhaps if they did not ask you a question in return, you may wonder perhaps the person isn't interested or doesn't have time at the moment. So try asking another question i suppose. Let's change it and ask a question about something a bit more personal.
"So I heard you got back from your doctor appointment right? How was it?"
Once again, the person is answering positively.
"It was little bit unsettling, the doctor said i had a problem that may need more testing. He thinks i may have aspergers syndrome."
So now the person started to talk about something personal with themself, but you dunno what it is. In order to understand it more, you could ask them that. This is where the situation can change unexpectedly. You could just ask them about it. It would be easy to do.
"So what is aspergers syndome, i never hear of it before."
With that you show them even though you dunno what it is, you show concern and care for them that you wish to know more and will listen in case they wish to discuss it with you. Of course is all comes down to choice. Now there is many ways that you could resond both positive and negative.
let's see a few.
The first one shows the person is interested in sharing detail information which means they are still in positive mood and asking the question was no problem or bother, they could even be happy or glad you did show interest in their situation. The second one could show they are not all so well at the moment, maybe don't have the time for it, but later you may revisit the idea and potentially get to talk more when the time is right.
The third, starts to show signs of negativity. It can show the person simply doesn't wanna be bothered, consider it a waste of time discussing it or better spent without it. It Could be other personal reasons like they don't understand it themself, or feel maybe they won't do such good job explaining it, so many more but moving on... the Forth shows is basically wasn't worth asking at the time or period, now the person is in a bad mood and is just not something they wish to be bothered with. You could try asking something else not related to the problem but once again, is all probability based on observation.
- Don't respond to it.
- Respond to
"Hello there, I'm doing good, i had a nice comfortable day so far, no problems at all."
So far you see they are in good mood, perhaps if they did not ask you a question in return, you may wonder perhaps the person isn't interested or doesn't have time at the moment. So try asking another question i suppose. Let's change it and ask a question about something a bit more personal.
"So I heard you got back from your doctor appointment right? How was it?"
Once again, the person is answering positively.
"It was little bit unsettling, the doctor said i had a problem that may need more testing. He thinks i may have aspergers syndrome."
So now the person started to talk about something personal with themself, but you dunno what it is. In order to understand it more, you could ask them that. This is where the situation can change unexpectedly. You could just ask them about it. It would be easy to do.
"So what is aspergers syndome, i never hear of it before."
With that you show them even though you dunno what it is, you show concern and care for them that you wish to know more and will listen in case they wish to discuss it with you. Of course is all comes down to choice. Now there is many ways that you could resond both positive and negative.
let's see a few.
- "Is a bit complicated to explain so if you have time we can discuss it now."
- "I'm not in the mood at the moment, I'll tell you more later."
- "Come on, you live in a age with technology at your fingertips, just look it up on the internet yourself."
- "I don't wanna talk about it, sorry is just something i don't wanna discuss."
The first one shows the person is interested in sharing detail information which means they are still in positive mood and asking the question was no problem or bother, they could even be happy or glad you did show interest in their situation. The second one could show they are not all so well at the moment, maybe don't have the time for it, but later you may revisit the idea and potentially get to talk more when the time is right.
The third, starts to show signs of negativity. It can show the person simply doesn't wanna be bothered, consider it a waste of time discussing it or better spent without it. It Could be other personal reasons like they don't understand it themself, or feel maybe they won't do such good job explaining it, so many more but moving on... the Forth shows is basically wasn't worth asking at the time or period, now the person is in a bad mood and is just not something they wish to be bothered with. You could try asking something else not related to the problem but once again, is all probability based on observation.
Once again is all down to the individual to make the choices to what questions they ask and how they respond, yes is common, there even fair points of arguement to blame the other but most can be avoiding conflict if they just be bit more obvious with it. Is simple to make things clear to understand, if you don't wanna talk, if you feel they bother you, if you feel comfort in the interest with you, just say so. There many times in school where i can't ask questions without someone saying "Go look it up yourself" the most common use response which just shows me they either don't know, don't wish to say, or somehow I offended them when i did not intend to, while i just needed to know quickly, wish to discuss or show concern.
It could just be said that they don't know, or they just don't want to talk. IS fine, but it doesn't have to go with misunderstanding, yeah i understand people are free to do, think, feel and assume and such on their own, but is just that way that leads to more problems, weather is personally themself creating their own problems (Introverted ) or for others in future. (extrovert) either way is just how people choose things, not everyone is easy to communicate with, trust me i know full well some have easier time and hard times. Is most of the times not even related to mentalitly problems doctors diagnose people with. If you ask me is all luck, just like in video games, RPG random encounters? more like that.
Bottom line, if i ask you a question, is for a reason. Yes i ask question maybe you feel i should know or i could simply look up on my own, truth is, i hate doing that. Is not as comforting doing that, i prefer to talk to people who can respond, it helps me to understand better than just looking up stuff people said, but no way to contact for any other info i may need or wish to discuss when i get more information to question. If someone is sick and i ask what they got or what it means, i'm asking cause i care and i wish to discuss it, if you do not, feel free to say so, or ignore the question, but is not needed to respond with negative intention.
I can see maybe i ask the wrong question, maybe too many, i don't know what someone else is thinking, i may not always understand what others convey but i try to, some people just don't give the time of day, give people a chance to do it, show is possible that good can come from things, i been around people who are quick to judge negaively and harsh, for whatever their own reasons are i wouldn't know, is not always fair to assume someone should know either cause you do, or thay have reasons to. In the end is each person who have choices to respond with different things and don't need to be offended by it. With out relating to any mental disorders, is common among people who been considered normal, and i have been up until certain point in my life when doctor made diagnosis, even before then such things has happend to people, they didn't even have diagnoses until much late in life and just cause they know it now after diagnosis, doesn't mean they should be having any different time than they were now. I know sometimes knowing some things and not knowing some things make people themslf and people around them behave different. But not every thing learned or ignored does that.
