So I learned my dad might die

Ok, so here is how everything is going so far.

Well my mom is a remarried woman who married my step dad (who I call dad as the other one is a piece of shit and im adopted anyway) last year. He is truly awesome guy but he has had heart issues for a long time (which is why he retired from working at Exxon as head Chef). Well yesterday he was feeling bad and we had to call 911 and they took him into ER and he stayed overnight. While this is always a big deal sometimes it is not always that bad (sometimes an IV is enough and he can come home the same day) but this time it was not so good and he had to have tests done on him. It turns out his ONE working artery is about 90% clogged and he had to get a stint. He is probably going to have to have either an artificial heart or a transplant(which would require a move that is an 1 plus away) and on top of that he might not make it. Oh and the kicker is if that does not work than the doctor says his time is limited (< 3 months). So yeah this all sucks major fuck. Personally it just makes me sick to think about life without him and missing so many experiences I could have. Anyway I just ask yall for your thoughts and prayers.

Personally this truly is fucking awful.


Edit
I forgot to say that the decision of a artificial heart vs a transplant will probably be made on Monday when he talks with his doctors
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oh me to vinny but on the plus if the transplant and works successful he will be able to live alot longer than with his one artery
 
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Well, at least the success rate on a heart raplacement is very high.

I also have someone close about to have a major surgery. She got some major spinal damage in a serious car crash (she has had terrible luck, and almost died several times) She is in pain all the time. Next week I believe she will have a spinal fusion on I think 6 discs in her spine. The success rate is like 60 or 70 I believe, much lower than that of a heart surgery.

Once again, good luck, and I hope he gets better.
 
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Thanks and that is good to know, plus his hospital that he would have it at a hospital which is part of a major university (if its picked)
 
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I barely know anyone here at the Temp, but it pains me when any of our members experiences a sudden hardship. I genuinely wish all the best for your dad and hope he gets better soon.
 
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Good luck bro. I had to deal with this kind of situations more than once in my family, and they are part of life. Learning to deal with them in the most rational way is something important to head to (and it's something you get better with time).
Hope him the best. If he lives mouths, years or decades, the important thing is that you're happy together, and that he had a good journey in the "school of life", like all of us should have too. Good luck to your family ;)
 
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@Walker D and @HaloEffect17

thank you both very much it means alot.
its been hard since earlier this year my grandma (who was basically my only grandparent due to alot of reasons) passed away and it was so hard so now this adds a ton of more crap my family does not need
 
Life goes on ...how well it goes depends on how you deal with issues too. I know this kind of situations are not easy, from personal experience, but you can go pass this issues. All your family can. Just remember "Depression, panic and despair NEVER brings anything good to the table. So always try to bring happiness, calmness and hope instead".

May not be as easy, but so is life.. The thing is, It's possible. And it's ALWAYS worth to try that.

You can talk with your family about that too. A fairly calm, fairly controlled mood can avoid unnecessary increase of suffering for your family (reason is a friendly tool). Good Luck
 
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the doctors time frame is just a guess. i hope for the best! sometimes doctors give 2 months and people live much MUCH longer. I dealt with my fathers death about 6 years ago, its not easy and i still think about the time we missed.
 
@VashTS
Yeah 6 years ago they gave him 6 months.
But I just hope that he does get a transplant since it was a lot better for his health since his arterys are in such bad conditions even before this.
 
Yup plus now my dad is probably is going to get a new heart doctor after his old one kinda lead him to this by changing his meds.
 
I can't believe this happened to you. I hope he gets better and things go back to normal. You guys need to hang tight.

You're not alone, @RevPokemon. It's been over a year since we accepted my dad back in the family ever since he has been given the diagnosis of Hepatitis B. The man was dying due to having horrible home care. Throughout my and my family's whole life, he abused us, emotionally AND physically. I was neglected by this man. One day in February 2014, his family (who did the same neglect to my mom when she lived back home in Pakistan before my siblings and I were even born) called us crying, apologizing and pleading that our dad is alone and dying, he really needed us to take care of him. And so we did, because he was still our father; and it was the duty of us as children to take care of him. Now today, he is much better than before, he's in line for a liver transplant; and he's a free man. Then he can go live with his new wife and his kid he made in Pakistan.

Rev, taking care of your dad is a really important thing, it's just love and attention that'll keep him happy. Trust me.
 
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