Well Fuck.

Be good friends and things can change

Try to let her notice you and try to be a good friend with her.
That's how I do all the time (I still don't have a girlfriend wow)

I Suppose you can try and convince the person you want a chance with her and if she decides not to then you could move on. Chances are if she bi and has a guy, is possible she could also have a girl (That could be you) But you would have to get along with him if it's that kind of relationship. But each of you deserve to be happy, or you can always find someone else?

Geez, who knew relationships, socializing was such a difficult thing? It makes me think too hard about what to do and options i have for doing things, is not suppoed to be a puzzle or manual to dating or relationships but it sure seems like that when you're lost and dunno what to do.

Take that guys girlfriend if you want her as their are plenty of other fish in the sea. I can't believe kids worry about these things, but apparently you do.

Stay out of the friends zone. If something goes wrong with the guy that she likes and you happen to bad mouth the dude, she may take it the wrong way as if you are trying to screw up her feelings for the guy. Basically, just play it cool. If she has an interest in you, cool. If not, then don't sweat it and move on. Fawning after people is a real pain in the ass and having people fawn over you is even more annoying. You should be a good enough person to be a number 1 and not a number 2 (i.e. somebody's second choice.)

Causing a breakup or ending a courtship because you want to go out with one of the people involved is a shitty thing to do, and moving in right as someone has ended a relationship is often considered pretty tasteless (though a lack of taste is not a bad thing if it only happens occasionally). I fail to see a problem with trying and seeing for someone that is otherwise not engaged in a relationship. Waiting for someone to be available and looking but not looking specifically at anybody is hard to do unless you are in your late 20s where it appears to be the de facto way things play out, or are moving around in divorced people, and equivalent, circles.

@FAST6191 I know there's nothing bad in ending a non existent relationship but what if the guy ends up liking her too? I'd rather not cause heartbreak

I believe this is what is known in the trade as overthinking things.

(I dunno why, but i just had to do this)

i never thought that someone who gave me great advice on my romantic problems would be asking for it herself some day...
i hope that you find a solution.

I had a similar situation 4 years ago. I was friend with a girl in my school (she's bi, and i'm hetero), and we were getting really close, and for a long time we stayed friends. I even personally know some of her exes. At the time, I wasn't romantically interested in her, so I kind of lost my chances with her, but with the years it changed. But she was already dating someone actually. So I actually gave up for a while, but stayed friends with her. A few monts later she broke up with the guy (it seems he was a douche) but that left her scarred (I won't go into details). She was my friend, so I was here for her. And now we're together. For almost 4 years now.


So my advice would be, be there for her when the time will be right. It might or might not work, but to work, you have to actually try it, it won't happen itself. Stay close, listen to her, try to get infos about the guy, try to subtly make her understand that you're available for her... Now, all of this might work if she's not in a serious relationship. If she's, well, just wish her the best in her life, because it would be hard and kind of immoral to break a perfectly good and sound couple. My advice might be kind of general, but actually, imho, being with someone should be natural, because if it's forced, it won't lead to anything. Also, you have to be sure she's bi, because a freaking lot of people these days think it's just so trendy to tell people they're bi, without even having experienced anything sexually or emotionally with someone of the same sex.

Honestly, I think you should let her do whatever she wishes to do.

Me? Okay.

@richardparker yeah its ironic

@EarlAB That was for MsMidnight.

Think like a guy for a moment. No one deserves her more then you, and that other male needs to be destroyed for even thinking about invading your territory. Once you get that mind set going, show her where she belongs. Be confident that she is yours, and project that whenever he is around. Take control.

If you listen to most of the other stuff here, you'll end up in what they call the friend zone. People always think you should take the nice guy, supportive, 'always be there for you' friend roles, but that is the opposite of what you should do.

Try to be her friend and that is exactly what you'll be. You need to project more then that.

This probably isn't the best way to go about this (how would I know, I've never had a girlfriend), but I would simply be content knowing that she's at least happy.

There are some that will probably tell you to be more assertive, however, I feel being too assertive and and trying to "destroy" the other guy will only ruin not just any chance of relationship, but friendship as well. Just be friends with her. If her boyfriend dumps her, be there to console her, don't just immediately try to court her, show some respect.