Issues with relationships and why i'm still single

So a lot of my friends don't understand why I'm always single or why i always decline a girl that come to me and even some asked me if i was gay few times ^^"
The thing is i'm not gay, i'm attracted to women but i never find a woman attractive paradoxal you might say

well the thing is I start to be sad about that because i'm someone extremely romantic and i would like to share things with someone but I also have extremely high standards and i can't do anything about that.

I don't have any problems to seduce someone(people even comes to me without me wanting to) but the sad thing is i never found someone i would like to be in relationship with, like either they have a great soul (in subjecive therm i don't trust in those spiritual things)and don't look good at all(well when i say great soul i mean okay because i never met someone as interesting as i would like to),

either they look great but they are absolutely not interesting as a person at all
and I really can't date someone that isn't both special as a person and and look great as well

which start to make me sad like i would like so much to meet someone different that i find both great as a person and that look good the thing is i never found anyone that is just great as a person and in total if you count internet and actors, there is only 12 women that i found physically attractive in my whole life
but again those 12 weren't interesting mentally

And i said that i found because my tastes changed and actually there is only 2 girls that i found physicaly attractive but not as a person

Whatever all this text just for saying that i'm way too picky, that i can't change that and that i don't want to either, but also that it make me sad because i would like so much to be able to share something with someone

(ps there is one expetion : a girl for whom i was crazy in love for over a year and an half and for whom i changed a lot (loosed 30kg, got rid of my social anxiety and my obsessive compulsives disorder) but at that time i was someone really different and even if i mooved on (i don't have feelings anymore) she is the only girl that i know which is both attractive mentally and physically in my point of view (i counted her in the 2 and 12 physically attracti but since i was some really shy, fat and awkward guy at that time things didn't end up well and now she can't see me anymore even though i'm someone completely different)

So the question is what would you do if you are someone attractive enough (well i'm more than the majority but also because i do 3h of sport per day and i eat healty and count every things to have an optimal health so i don't want to boast but it is still pretty modest) but that you can't find anyone that you find attractive even though you would like to ?
  • Like
Reactions: 3 people

Comments

Nobody's perfect, and the relationship itself can change the people involved. You yourself said you started working out and lost weight because of a girl, so logic dictates that you might find someone who is willing to do the same.


I know this is probably a little cold, but it's how my train of thought is and I can't really reword it as much: plan for a long-term investment. Pick the girl that has more interesting personality then looks. If you're doing 3 hours of sport every day then she might become more motivated to join in (possibly she always wanted to but never had the will and encouragement). As long as you keep her spirits up while she's building up her stamina you will find yourself with a fun running partner with a nice ass. Or you'll realize that is not important and you both find an equilibrium.
 
  • Like
Reactions: 1 person
Well if i nevr find someone attractive IRL i wont find on dating website
plus i think dating website are mostly for shy people rather than picky ones and i'm not shy at all ^^
 
  • Like
Reactions: 1 person
Well i judge beauty mostly on face, i know that the physic can change but doing sport won't change your face that much
my issue isn't just that i'm picky but that i only find only a few attractive and I find the other digusting, not just unatractive but disgusting, like it repels me as man or grandma and i can't do anything about that I'm as picky physically than mentally unfortunately
I know it might sound harsh but i can't do anything about that, their is no middle, either i found a women attractive either i found her disgusting (physically)
and even the most gorgeous women in the world would not fit me if her personality isn't right
actually i won't find her pretty as soon as I know her more if i don't like her way of being ^^"
 
  • Like
Reactions: 1 person
That's not really my fault but i might be the pickiest guy on earth and trust me it isn't something great :/
 
  • Like
Reactions: 1 person
I dunno, being picky probably isn't that big a deal, besides most relationships occur through randomness and just might as well considered happy accident. Is just a process of various things coming together naturally as opposed to forced or making it look as if you had effort. Yeah is probably doesn't seem that way, knowing that "I'm lonely, and i want a partner, so i'll go find one i'll like." as the part of effort but i mean people meet during job trade, various places in the city, accidents involving the other like finding someone bump into each other, trying to help someone who obviously needs it... is variable situation.

What i said may not make sence to some people, but i just mean sometimes things happen that is unexpected and seem like is a good thing, there is people out there for you, just take time, and try not to rush, it may not be as satisfying if you do. Be careful i guess would have been easiser said than done but if you don't agree, is okay, not expecting anyone to take my word for it, the experience in your own life speaks for itself. :)
 
  • Like
Reactions: 3 people
But Honestly i didn't made this post to have answeres but mostly just to express myself, it helps just to speak about it ^^
 
  • Like
Reactions: 2 people
@Sonic Angel Knight Actually i stoped searching a while ago but sure that would be nice to just bump into the one ^^
 
pof.com
Try it. You'll probably laugh, cry, die a little on the inside, then, maybe, find a woman you like.


Or, petition for gbatemprelationships.com
 
I don't trust dating websites, I mean they are real ok but i better find someone irl rather than internet. It's not for me.
And i understand you well, what would i do? Idk just wait, you never know
 
  • Like
Reactions: 2 people
Personally I've always felt like there's someone out there for everyone.
though, I am a hypocrite for saying that since I also believe that no one will ever love me. but hey. you're probably young man. life will have a lot of people for you to meet and care about
 
Just love yourself whether theres someone in your life or not doesnt give it anymore meaning, you dont have to be in a rush or feel like youre behind the curve. The problem with a lot of people is that they spend so much time looking for someone before theyve even found themselves, trust me thats how a lot of relationships fail.

I also feel like love may seem like a "feeling" in the beginning but i see it as a commitment more to that feeling of strong infatuation.
 
  • Like
Reactions: 1 person
It's called falling in love, not love at first glance. If you can't accept a person for who they are, just toss your life in the bin. It's either real waifu for laifu or your seiyuu voice level tsun-yan-kuu-dere with perfect cosplaying proportions smarter than thou oldies music loving anime otaku with a penchant for video games yet still entirely reliable in all things household pinnacle of the female specimen waifu numbering in the single digits of ONE in the world, if at that by rounding upwards.
 
  • Like
Reactions: 1 person
*girl walks up to me*
Girl: Oh you're soo hot, wanna date me?
Me: HAHAHAHAHAH, no, you're missing something between your legs.

In all seriousness.
I know more people who are attracted to girls but are still virgins simply because they lack the emotional bond.
Nothing to be ashamed of.
 
  • Like
Reactions: 4 people

Blog entry information

Author
Alkéryn
Views
422
Comments
74
Last update

More entries in Personal Blogs

More entries from Alkéryn

General chit-chat
Help Users
    RedColoredStars @ RedColoredStars: Carotenemia causes skin to appear orange-ish in color. Orange Pi. Carotenemia Pussy. Get it. lolol +1