Rant #1: The Kid

Okay, so first off, I'm Autistic. Very, very high-functioning, but Autistic nonetheless. Needless to say, I don't have many friends. It never really hit me until this year, and when it did it felt like a hole opened in my chest. I feel so empty.

But what I'm going to talk about today is one of my friends. He's also Autistic. He's lower functioning than I am- not by a lot but enough to for people to notice. Everyone hates him. When I say that I'm his only friend, I'm not exaggerating. I am LITERALLY his only friend. And because of this, he follows me everywhere. One time I went to the robotics room during lunch to help my team, and he legit got MAD at me. I also went to go see my science teacher to make up an assignment and I walk back into the hall and he's THERE. This kid legit tracked me down because I left for 20 minutes. And because everyone avoids him, everyone avoids me by extension. It drives me crazy. I mean, we have a lot in common but he's just really weird. He also gets physical, which is even worse. But I signed up for this, and I have no way out. I feel bad for him too, his mom died last year, although they didn't really have a relationship. And because I'm the only person in the school who's not a jerk, I get penalized. Making friends is hard as it is, but he makes everything so much worse. I don't know what to do. I can hardly talk to people, let alone tell this kid to buzz off.

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Second blog about autism issues this week? interesting...

I've been in a similar situation before where I make a friend and they follow me around.
If you give it some time, then contact may become less frequent. That's how things happened for me.

A better idea for your case may be if you have to do something, tell them you're busy with important stuff you'd rather not talk about. It may work if they don't ask questions.
 
Just saying, these are your formative years too. If you don't get to 'learn' how to make friends, you'll probably end up being a social outcast in further stages of life, and you don't want that do you?
 
If you're in middle school, it'll be easy to just power through and get to high school and have a fresher start. If you're already in high school, however, well...

I suppose your only recourse would be to join a school club that the kid isn't in, so you can have a better chance to let people get to know you without him tagging along? As harsh as that sounds to the friend you have. Middle school and high school are petty places, and for most people, it doesn't even really equip you with how to be social with people, it moreso teaches you how to either lay low and not be noticed, or how to hate being the odd one out.

I'd say buckle down and at least try to keep befriending the guy cuz clearly you're the only one he's got, but he seems too clingy, and makes things overly difficult for you, and that's a bit unhealthy.
 
@Chary My school is K-12, so it doesn't matter either way. Yeah, never realized what people meant by "clingy" until this.
 

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