Girl troubles

I'm now officialy desperate enough to be the over 9000th guy to rely to a gaming forum for solutions to my lack of self-confidence.
There's this really cute girl at my school, and as you prolly will have guessed by now, I kinda have a crush on her.
Problem is, I don't know her that well, and I wanna get to know her better without having her think I'm some stalking creep.
An example. Last friday I was in school in physics class (the teacher wasn't there yet) and me and a couple of classmates were looking at the school square, and of course the girl was already off and was waiting for her friends so they could cycle home together.
So I was looking at her, and next thing I know one of her friends is standing next to her, pointing at the window that I was looking down from.
I really didn't know what to do, so I panicked and got my ass away from the window. And of course a few minutes later I thought that what I had done, was stupid, and that I should've done something more self-confident like waving or whatever.
Now please tell me, what would be the best thing for me to do in such a situation?
And what is the best way to get to know her better while still making a chance (as in not creeping her out, while staying far away from the so-called friend-trap).
And just for the record, she's 15, I'm 16, and I'm really desperate since the only time I've had a "relationship" (nothing to actually call a relationship) was two years ago, and we didn't even make it to the first base.
So please help a fellow temper out. Desperate thanks in advance :/
GAWD I SUCK.

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mcp2
Small comment here and there to her ("oh you look cold" or "amazing weather", it's hard to make some up because they're just supposed to roll off your tongue). Then progress to further conversation.
 
DarkWay
you need the confidece to talk to her, if you wait around too much someone else will beat you too it.
just start with the simple stuff if you walk past her smile and say hi, see if she notices you if she replies thats a good start, then sooner or later up to you and your confidence move to "hey, how are you?" if she notices and replies endign with "and how are you?" or something similar then your making good ground then start to hang around with her more chatting about random crap doesn't have to be anything important then ask her out sometime. You just need to build up your confidence.

I was like this with my ex-girlfriend right up until this charity I support had a prom, I thought there's just no way she would ever like me that way but she was there I asked her to dance and that was that we were dating shorting after that. I say ex because we split up as we both wanted different things but we're still the best of friends today so it's all good
 
Demonbart
[quote name='luke_c' post='2669403' date='Mar 15 2010, 09:54 PM']Relationships at that sort of age aren't worth it, believe me.[/quote]
Lack of experience on my age will only make it harder for me in the future. I'm not looking for a lifetime partner, it's just that if I don't get my practice at this age, I'll still be like this in 24 years, and I'll be a real-life 40-year-old virgin. And I DO NOT want that to happen.

[quote name='junker_man32' post='2669424' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:01 PM']um...get a different cute girl ..[/quote]
If only it were that easy.

EDIT: Removed yaysp, no clue how it got there in the first place.
And Darkway, thanks for your response, good to know at least one person here is actually willing to help.
 
mcp2
I'm also in the boat that at this age they're not worth it. They get in the way of studying/exams, you can't think straight (as gay as that sounds, it does happen), they're not very beneficial in general.
 
MegaAce™
[quote name='Overlord Nadrian' post='2669513' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:20 PM']I want mah gurlz! :angry:

But like others already said, relationships at this age are probably not the best thing, maybe only for secks.[/quote]

D: Why the fuck do you guys only think about sex?
 
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[quote name='MegaAceâ„¢' post='2669529' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:22 PM'][quote name='Overlord Nadrian' post='2669513' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:20 PM']I want mah gurlz! :angry:

But like others already said, relationships at this age are probably not the best thing, maybe only for secks.[/quote]

D: Why the fuck do you guys only think about sex?
[/quote]
:creep:
 
Demonbart
[quote name='Overlord Nadrian' post='2669513' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:20 PM']I want mah gurlz! :angry:

But like others already said, relationships at this age are probably not the best thing, maybe only for secks.[/quote]
As i said, I never even kissed a girl yet, so secks prolly won't be happening anytime soon.
 
G
[quote name='MegaAceâ„¢' post='2669529' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:22 PM'][quote name='Overlord Nadrian' post='2669513' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:20 PM']I want mah gurlz! :angry:

But like others already said, relationships at this age are probably not the best thing, maybe only for secks.[/quote]

D: Why the fuck do you guys only think about sex?
[/quote]
You realise you are on GBAtemp, right?
 
MegaAce™
[quote name='CasperH' post='2669555' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:27 PM'][quote name='MegaAceâ„¢' post='2669529' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:22 PM'][quote name='Overlord Nadrian' post='2669513' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:20 PM']I want mah gurlz! :angry:

But like others already said, relationships at this age are probably not the best thing, maybe only for secks.[/quote]

D: Why the fuck do you guys only think about sex?
[/quote]
You realise you are on GBAtemp, right?
[/quote]

Yeah, I know.
 
Twiffles
[quote name='Demonbart' post='2669477' date='Mar 15 2010, 01:13 PM']Lack of experience on my age will only make it harder for me in the future. I'm not looking for a lifetime partner, it's just that if I don't get my practice at this age, I'll still be like this in 24 years, and I'll be a real-life 40-year-old virgin. And I DO NOT want that to happen.[/quote]
Wait, wait. Are you seriously that desperate to get experience at THAT age? Really, now.
You sound like you're already on the verge of being a adult man that's still a virgin. But you're not.

You. Have. Time.

Not to be a downer, but the way your attitude extrudes off the text, I don't think, with your state of mind, it would it go very far.
UNLESS, the opportunity to engage in conversation is available/within grasp or presents itself, and you have that good set of friends there to help/encourage you.
Otherwise, yeah.
 
NeSchn
I'd just go up to here and say "Hey" and try to start from there, or talk on FaceBook or something.


Personally, I have given up, it doesn't seem a big deal to me anymore since I've never had a girlfriend. All I hear is my friends bitching about their girlfriends all the time. I talk to a couple girls that seem to have interest in me, but I don't get excited for anything since I have been let down so many times lol. So, I just chat with them and be friendly and if anything happens, that will be sweet.

Sorry if that sounds so depressing lololol, its not really, I've gotten used to it :P

But seriously, go up and say "Hi" to her. Don't try to act all nervous just walk up and be like "Hey, whats up?" or something like that. I know with the girls that I used to like, I found the opportune to talk to them, usually when they are talking about something that I can relate too or have interest with, or if they are friends with other friends of mine.
 
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[quote name='Demonbart' post='2669552' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:26 PM'][quote name='Overlord Nadrian' post='2669513' date='Mar 15 2010, 10:20 PM']I want mah gurlz! :angry:

But like others already said, relationships at this age are probably not the best thing, maybe only for secks.[/quote]
As i said, I never even kissed a girl yet, so secks prolly won't be happening anytime soon.
[/quote]
Same for me.
 
xcalibur
You have no confidence. Just give up.

You're a year older. Don't assume she's completely experienced and you're a total noob at relationships. Try and talk to her without seeming too creepy and avoid her girlfriends. Girlfriends love to cockblock just cause they can.
 
BeatriceTheGolde
Sex isn't anywhere near as great as people make it out to be, especially if you don't love whoever you're fucking.

...

;-;
 
Twiffles
[quote name='BeatriceTheGolden' post='2670502' date='Mar 15 2010, 05:50 PM']Sex isn't anywhere near as great as people make it out to be, especially if you don't love whoever you're fucking.

...

;-;[/quote]
You'd be surprised how many people would kill to be in your "I have a sex-buddy situation", Scubers. haha
 
Toni Plutonij
Well, to be honest, I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend since I was 16. She was 16 as well..She's 8 months younger then me.
So when somebody tells you it's not worth at that age, don't listen to it, as it's matter of ones personality and how things click.
Yes, people who can seriously date at that age are in minority and you shouldn't expect anything to come out of it, but nobody says you shouldn't try!

Coming up to girl and simply saying "Hi!" is always a good start, let her know you exist, and show some actual interest in her.
Some casual talk is always nice, since you're going to same school you can always talk school stuff, something to begin with. It would be smart to try to learn some stuff about her trough talk.
So next time you approach her, you can have some different subject, something more interesting, it could be some movie, or music, something that is easy to talk about.

You have to take small steps, but you should act, not wait. Self-confidence is simply state of mind, you have to realize that there is nothing to loose.
If you don't approach her, you loose by default! ;)

Good luck, and to be honest, nothing we say here could actually change anything if you don't decide to change and start acting :) You're not the first nor the last one with the same "problem"!

EDIT: And don't think about sex at all......it all comes with time, some people are ready for it sooner, some later..But trust me, it'll come! :)
 
Demonbart
Whoa, I went to sleep after my last post,, and I just woke up to find out that we've started a seecond page already!
Thanks for all the help so far, especially Toni and Darkway, people with experience alway seem to give the best advice :D So what I'll prolly do is just follow your advice for now, and when (read: if) I get confident enough I'll try and see if I can stand up on my own. Problem is, I've been ill since saturday, and I hope I can go to school again tomorrow (never thought I'd ever say that) but I'm not sure if I'll be able to :(
So in the meantime please keep posting advice, I can always use a fifth, sixth and seventh opinion :)
 

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