I gave money to a begger but...

God bless you if you believe in God. You are a good person. Awesome but yeah.. he is rude. He doesnt understand what he is doing. Forgive him if you will.

I think the hunger is not their main problem in that PLACE lol.

maybe i should make a my own blog later, you guy won't believe how they COOK 50 DUCKS' HEADS at once and EAT SCORPIONS LOL

"If you give them a finger, they take the whole hand".

@linuxares why would i give him a finger o.O

Well, he was rude, and sure you shouldn't escalate it but I would understand if you gave him the finger.

Wut?! this topic was about Charity and goldheart suddenly became Cannibalism...

impressive...

I used to foolishly give money to beggars, because for the most part a few seemed genuine. But my perspective changed when I lived opposite a supermarket that frequently had a few rotational beggars outside, when I noticed the rudeness on the days that it wasn't too affordable to give them money (which actually made me give less the next time), living on my own budget of minor essentials (hey, I had to eat). Which at first, I thought maybe they were just having an off day, like we all do. But there was something sinister about these particular beggars, which I decided to watch occasionally from my small apartment and to my surprise, they would all get in the same vehicle daily at 6pm and re-appear every morning between 9 and 10am. I didn't really think about it after 6pm, because I had my own things to do as I worked nights, until one night I walked home at 5am and just so happened to walk by a house that they happened to be living in. At first, I thought that maybe they had finally pulled enough money to pay rent, which was a thought of relief as it was the month of October and it was getting colder and I go home to bed. Then behold... I wake up sometime around lunchtime and they're outside the supermarket again, in their rotations. Which I then start talking openly about it at work, when multiple people tell me the same thing, that it's drugs and they beg for their drug money and during the rotations, they are off visiting their dealers. I later moved nearer to the city center, when I started working in security and I had to work in supermarkets where I would see the very same individuals that were begging outside the supermarket in the village four miles away. The whole thing opened my eyes, that beggars weren't good people. Because I learnt a lot more, talking to them when I was moving them on from outside my storefront. That they choose to sit outside stores because people mostly always give them money, which one told me he would get £200+ per night on a Friday and Saturday because of people who were out drinking, then around £100 each day, on top of their free accommodation and benefits, which funded their drug and alcohol addictions.

I haven't given to a beggar since, which I tend to now give any spare change (when I actually carry cash) to charities because beggars are just rude unruly individuals who think the world owes them.

@Kyuuketsuki either drugs or alcohol, but that is no surprise to me, I thought that was pretty clear from the get go, "first world beggars" whose housing is paid by the state but they don't have enough money for the one or two extra packs of beers, and there could be many reasons they want that beer (e.g. if you had to reach the point to live on social aids, perhaps your life story is far from nice). I still think, though, perhaps I am being a bad person contributing to their alcoholism each time I give them money. But they are not rude really, not around here anyway, and sure they put some façade but you know it is for drinks.

Stopped giving money to beggars after one cursed at me for giving him bread and cheese instead of money, even though he was asking for money to buy food.

@Reiten maybe he's intolerant of lactose xD

Or celiac... was the bread gluten free? EDIT: -> /s <-

@sarkwalvein Not sure if you're being sarcastic or serious, but given the smell of his breath, when he cursed, I'm 99% certain that he wanted the money to buy booze.

Well the thing I learned from that is to not give money to beggars, but to support the local soup kitchens and homeless shelters, when I have a charitable mood.

What a coincidence. Two days ago I had a somewhat similiar situation to OP's, which was still a little more complex, though, since I had to live with it for quite some time.

A year and a half ago my "cumpañera de habitacíon" (a Spanish woman I do flat-sharing with basically) asked me if a friend who was kicked out of his flat could stay for a while. Just until he finds something else. Well, legally you can declare someone a visitor over here for 6 weeks (which turned out to be about 18 months with a small break of two or three months in between)... He mostly didn't bother me at all, because he was always in her room, but his attitude was not okay. He didn't cover the additional costs he was causing by using our bath, shower, kitchen and stuff. He didn't clean anything and once when nobody else was at home, he put something on the stove and went to sleep. When I came home, the whole hallway smelled burnt and there was smoke everywhere. You can imagine I was pissed that day.

Well, in the middle of April I told him to move out by the end of May and give back the keys he got from my roommate. That didn't really happen and when I told him we had an agreement he just told me to shut up and lied to me. I could have called the police to get him out immediately, but I restrained from doing that, even though he is an ungrateful asshole I don't want to deal with anymore.

It's a tough one as some people are genuine, however theirs also some just abusing your generosity.

A few months ago a guy came up to me and asked for money to buy some food, which went something like this:

Me: I don't have money on me but i'll take you in a cafe and buy you a sandwich and a drink.
Him: *thinking about it* "can you not go to a cash machine and get some money?"
Me: "no"
The guy: why not?
Me: "ill buy you some food but i'm not giving you money"
Guy: "I'm not gonna spend it on drugs."
Me: I never said that (however I was thinking it by this point)

I ended up buying that guy a Sandwich, however the more i thought about it after the more I should have just told him to do one. He didn't seem that grateful for it at all and more mythed i'd buy him food but not give him money.

I never like giving anyone money as more often than not I think im going to be helping some alcohol or drug addiction. However if someone genuinely needed food I have no issue with helping them.

In comparison their used to be a man on the same place most days on a street I passed going to work, he was obviously homeless. He would never ask for anything but I always offered him my sandwich, which he would usually take. He seemed a nice guy and I could tell he appreciated it.

@Noctosphere It's a saying. Like OP, he gave him a coin(the finger), then he wanted more (the hand)

@Axido I think it should be "compañera de piso". I mean, "compañera de habitación" translates literally to "room mate", but at least in my version of Spanish it sounds more like someone you share the one same room with. Of course with the many different Spanish dialects YMMV.

I once saw a homeless guy eating out of the garbage can,
I offered him a cheeseburger, he told me, "I don't eat cheeseburgers."

My fucking logic broke. Part of me wanted to take a bite and throw it in the trash to see if he needed garbage sauce with extra flies....I digress.

Next time, give them the location of job placement services, a shelter, or anything else to truly benefit their lives.

Tomorrow is my birthday, and for 60 Euros, I can get a good game for my whole life. Could you support me?

@H1B1Esquire Thats because cheeseburgers are unhealthy.

No, but I have a copy of Horse Racing 2016 next to me, I think it may appease your hunger, take it here.