Today I Lost my Whole World

You should think about the situation you are in, and take a minute to just reflect. Take a break. Have some time for yourself. I know that kind of feeling, and it feels bad, but sometimes we need to get over with it. It will take time, and eventually you’ll just accept it. There’s nothing wrong to be friends with someone you loved. I hope you feel better.

11 years man... You should have known you were in the friend zone.

It takes like some months or a year to enter the friend zone.

Not kidding you, the exact same thing happened to me like 3 months ago. I finally told my female friend how I felt about her after like 10+ years (I had 3 girlfriends in that time) and she didn't friendzone me like your girl did, but she said something like, "Ummm I'm going to have to think about this and mull it over" and yet she never mentioned it again after that. Yeah she's weird with communication like that, that's why she's still single.

Don't worry about it man, just eat right, exercise, build some muscle, look hot, and then rub it in her face when you get a much better girl. This is what I'm doing. Don't let it stop you from finding someone. I'm in the same boat and it sucked, but you got to pick yourself up and go. For all you know if this girl accepted you she may have sucked a lot anyway. I was able to see all the cons of dating my friend.

Ha, also be her best friend, then put yourself up on a dating site, get a girlfriend, then stop hanging out and talking with her often, then let the jealousy kill her.

Well, I lost my world too... I had a girlfriend for 5 years. I really loved her. And she was my best friend and she simply left me with no reason.

Now after 2 years we are going out and I think we're returning our relationship. She did many wrong and sad things but I decided to let it go.

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There's a huge chance shells miss you and realize she loves you.

yeah your right im not gonna lie her moms a pain and her families a mess. shes not the healthiest either but i was willing to put up with it for her. i just wish she made it clear she was always wierd with her interactions with me she was always near me. we would talk about everything and whenever i made jokes or asked her to go out to places she would say yes at first. later on it was harder but i blamed it on her job. the suckiest part was i kept trying to get her to tell me to go away or stop being my friend. but she always came back and looked for me its why i was so unsure for do long. even today there were 3 other guys around us and she stuck by my side. what sucks is she still wants to be friends but i cant do that she just has to much of an effect on me

my situations not great either my jobs keep me away from people and i dont start college again till september so in the end she left me with nowhere to go.

Let's be real here. It should have been apparent before the end of the 1st year that your attempts would have seemed in vain, so really, she did not steal 11 years of your life.

Now @dekuleon does make a good point. You've been with this girl for a long time, and she has simply been comfortable that you were there for her (else she wouldn't even consider you a friend, right?). If you were to stop being a part of her life, she might feel empty, and try to reach out for you. Granted this is coming from someone who has never been in a relationship, but I do understand what emptiness can feel like.

First of all, lose some weight. Second of all, and this is important, women are unilaterally trash. I don't mean it to be cruel. They don't perform as well as men in society and their judgement is especially poor -- also, driving skills.

Third, be successful above all else. You need to be successful in life in order to be happy or make anyone else happy.

Watch this movie, and then watch everything Gavin McInnes has ever made.

Sounds like you wasted 11 years of your life of your own accord. Has nothing to do with her. Honestly after that long it was probably blatantly obvious too.

jahrs said:

yeah your right im not gonna lie her moms a pain and her families a mess. shes not the healthiest either but i was willing to put up with it for her. i just wish she made it clear she was always wierd with her interactions with me she was always near me. we would talk about everything and whenever i made jokes or asked her to go out to places she would say yes at first. later on it was harder but i blamed it on her job. the suckiest part was i kept trying to get her to tell me to go away or stop being my friend. but she always came back and looked for me its why i was so unsure for do long

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Lol you think that's bad. The girl that the same thing happened to is always somewhat flirty. She'll always send me cute snapchat pictures of herself. Her parents absolutely love me. Her aunt, uncle, dog, and even her brother who wishes for us to date loves the hell out of me. We have all the same friends who all say we should be dating. We were dates at a friend's wedding and people thought we were married. Like a billion people asked me, "So are you two dating" and I'm suuuure she has heard it from people. Hell we even complained about each others girlfriend/boyfriend at times.

Yeah man, you're NO WHERE near alone on this one. I gave up at this point. If tomorrow she would say, "Oh hey, I decided we'd be good together" then I'm going to say no, honest to god. No one should have to suffer through that BS, not even you.

Fugelmir said:

First of all, lose some weight. Second of all, and this is important, women are unilaterally trash. I don't mean it to be cruel. They don't perform as well as men in society and their judgement is especially poor -- also, driving skills.

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Can't tell if trying and failing to be funny, or just retarded

are you my clone cause thats exactly where was. i kept her family together and i helped her mom and brother stay sane after her father divorced her mom. if it was for me its confirm by her brother that he wouldve killed himself or his mom.

also im not fat i was 125 until recently and only got to "normal" weight recently according to my bmi.

I understand that it must suck for you, but it's not her fault she didn't tell you she's not into you, unless you already confessed before you said you did. She can't just wave a sign saying "sorry bro ily but not romantically" all day. She can't read your mind. If nothing happens by 2 years tops, even 1 year really, move on. Stay friends but realize the chick isn't into you that way.

Hells Malice said:

Can't tell if trying and failing to be funny, or just retarded

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jahrs said:

are you my clone cause thats exactly where was. i kept her family together and i helped her mom and brother stay sane after her father divorced her mom. if it was for me its confirm by her brother that he wouldve killed himself or his mom.

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All I can say is that you're worth so much more to a better person. Don't let the wrong ones keep you down. You are SOOOO young still. Keep her as a friend and start dating, trust me on this. She'll eventually learn she let go of an awesome person, meanwhile you'll have found someone who truly loves you for you.

hello chary i did confess at year 3 but she moved so she broke it off. but she never said anything else on the matter. in fact about 3 years ago i told her to let me know when she was ready to date again. and she said ok but never let me know and never batted me away whenever i tried to get close either.

also thank you raven its nice to hear those words because i honestly hope thats what happens.

How the heck do you not notice being in the friend zone for 11 years? If I'm friends with a girl that long, I'm dating her. Come on man, are you for real? Anyways, screw that hoe.

actually the issue is that i couldnt screw her lol. but it was a long con when you really love someone and they are always by your side you sorta forget to fill in some dots. i was just blinded by time and one sided love. to be honest i just put so much time and effort i never thought it would end up any other way. afterall ive never friend zoned any girl its either your a possible candidate or not with me and i never understood friendzoning people of the gender your sexually attracted to. its just sickening to me because its like teasing a dog with a treat and then giving it to someone else.

keep your head up. She's not the one. Soon you will find someone who will love you as much as you love them. You're only 23, give yourself time to figure things out. One thing you have to see is that she wasn't the one for you. That's okay, life is like that. Pick up the pieces and move on. Easier said than done, I know, but give it time.

Too many women on this planet to be worried about 1 for 11 whole years. She'll finally come running to you once she gets knocked up with no one else to turn to for support.

jahrs said:

actually the issue is that i couldnt screw her lol. but it was a long con when you really love someone and they are always by your side you sorta forget to fill in some dots. i was just blinded by time and one sided love. to be honest i just put so much time and effort i never thought it would end up any other way. afterall ive never friend zoned any girl its either your a possible candidate or not with me and i never understood friendzoning people of the gender your sexually attracted to

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You can't put time and effort into one girl for years and never make a move or say something for a long time. In my case I had serious relationships that all failed in the 10+ years and the girl(friend) I'm into dated as well with no success. Don't waste so much time on the same girl. She probably just didn't feel the same way and that's it. You can't force a girl to be into you. Just move on. It might hurt in the short term, but in the long term you'll look back and see how stupid the crush was.