There are certain questions I ask on the first date but there are also other questions I want to ask but don't.
The questions I do ask are the easy ones like "do you smoke?" and "do you have any tattoos?".
Some questions are difficult but not impossible to ask. If I want to know if my date uses drugs (and if she does, our first date will also be our last) I might say "I saw an article on the news about weed being legalised. What do you think of it?"
The questions I want to ask but don't is "do you have an STD?".
I've tried thinking of various ways to tactfully and indirectly ask but they don't sound right and I've never tried actually asking. The closest I've gotten is asking about her previous relationships. An option I've thought of but haven't tried is asking whether she's applied for a work or study visa which requires a health checkup.
Some of the wordings I've thought of are "I had a sexual health checkup a few months ago and lucky for me I tested negative to everything.", change the subject to travelling then say "some of my friends told me to visit the red light district in <insert country here> but I wasn't willing to risk getting a disease" and "monkeypox seems to be a big issue among the gay community right now. Sometimes I get paranoid that it might mutate to become more contagious.".
So how would you ask your date about their sexual health or seek this information?
The questions I do ask are the easy ones like "do you smoke?" and "do you have any tattoos?".
Some questions are difficult but not impossible to ask. If I want to know if my date uses drugs (and if she does, our first date will also be our last) I might say "I saw an article on the news about weed being legalised. What do you think of it?"
The questions I want to ask but don't is "do you have an STD?".
I've tried thinking of various ways to tactfully and indirectly ask but they don't sound right and I've never tried actually asking. The closest I've gotten is asking about her previous relationships. An option I've thought of but haven't tried is asking whether she's applied for a work or study visa which requires a health checkup.
Some of the wordings I've thought of are "I had a sexual health checkup a few months ago and lucky for me I tested negative to everything.", change the subject to travelling then say "some of my friends told me to visit the red light district in <insert country here> but I wasn't willing to risk getting a disease" and "monkeypox seems to be a big issue among the gay community right now. Sometimes I get paranoid that it might mutate to become more contagious.".
So how would you ask your date about their sexual health or seek this information?