My dad went on a rant.

[Diablo1123]

Wow, that's crazy. I just failed three classes because of procrastination(If you only count the work I actually did I had straight A's), and I haven't heard any rant at all.

Dad just says, "Take responsibility." And then his profound all encompassing answer for my procrastination, "Just do it." Yeah, thanks Dad, that really helps...eh, but it's better than a rant so I guess I should be thankful.

You are one lucky bastard. If I failed a class, I will probably never see another monitor until I move out.

Yeah, it's strange. I'm still able to play games and stuff a lot...maybe they want me to fail again in the future?

I've done that too in my sophomore year of highschool where I never did math homework but did relatively well on the tests.
And failed.


QUOTE(BloodyFlame @ Jan 20 2011, 09:15 PM)

Note: B's as in grades.

So, I got a B- (40/50) on a Social Studies quiz that more than half of my entire grade failed. Now, my dad is so amazing that he can tell my ENTIRE academic future with that one grade. He says that I don't have a chance of getting into colleges such as USC. He also said that B's are TERRIBLE grades and he will take everything away if I get a B again. Thoughts?

People where I live would ask 'Is he Asian?'

Other than that, I've convinced my parents that if they 'take everything away' I'd have no motivation to do anything and just fail everything.
Does take a while, but I just keep asking them the question 'How does taking everything away help?'
Or you can take psychology and learn that positive reinforcement is better than negative reinforcement and somehow explain that to them.

Also USC, you live in California too?

 

[BloodyFlame]

Yes, I do live in California. I've also used the argument of having no motivation to work anymore. What did he say? He said that he would rather have me live on the steets with no ability to support my family then to have me play games.

EDIT: I am indeed Asian.

 

[notmeanymore]

My parents didn't complain (much) about my report cards. I'd ace every test and get B's and C's because I never did my homework. XD

 

[Diablo1123]

Yes, I do live in California.
Anywhere near me? Near Monterey Park.
QUOTE(BloodyFlame @ Jan 20 2011, 10:10 PM) I've also used the argument of having no motivation to work anymore. What did he say? He said that he would rather have me live on the steets with no ability to support my family then to have me play games.

Does that mean you don't play games right now?

You could also question his knowledge about college.
If he's been there before, say times have changed.
If not, tell him whatever he hears from radio/TV could be completely wrong and since you are going to be doing all that stuff, you know what you're doing.

These are all arguments I've used. Mostly seems to just take time.

 

[IchigoK2031]

See, I'm pretty much done with school...I've already applied for college. All I'm doing now is maintaining a 3.0 GPA for my senior year with no D's or F's (as stated by the University of California system) so that any acceptances aren't revoked...of course I still get rants from my parents, and I also got B rants back in middle school as well...so I get the idea

 

[BloodyFlame]

Yes, I do live in California.
Anywhere near me? Near Monterey Park. No, but I go to a school around there and my aunt lives there. I go there almost everyday.
QUOTE(BloodyFlame @ Jan 20 2011, 10:10 PM) I've also used the argument of having no motivation to work anymore. What did he say? He said that he would rather have me live on the steets with no ability to support my family then to have me play games.

Does that mean you don't play games right now?

You could also question his knowledge about college.
If he's been there before, say times have changed.
If not, tell him whatever he hears from radio/TV could be completely wrong and since you are going to be doing all that stuff, you know what you're doing.

These are all arguments I've used. Mostly seems to just take time.

Luckily, I still have my games. They will probably be the only "friends" I have at home. Although, that must sound very strange.

 

[Riley]

I remember that in Elementary school i got A's and B's. Then once i got to high school everything went downhill.

 

[Hanafuda]

Ok I'm probably as old as your dad or older. So you'll probably consider me as full of shit as him. Fair enough at your age that's normal. And I'll agree with everyone else that going off on you over a B in 7th grade is ridiculous. But just to play devil's advocate to a small extent, I'll give you this to consider ... better to have a parent who's concerned about your academic performance and your future than to have a parent who couldn't care less. I know this from experience. And as someone else here also recommended ... when you get to high school, whether that be 9-12 or 10-12, it will really make a difference if you keep your GPA as high as possible and knock the SAT out of the park. Good luck to you and try to remember that a parent who wants excellence from you is better than a parent who wishes you didn't exist.

edit: by the way, I actually encourage gaming at my house, but school comes first. My oldest is in his freshman year of college and I hammered this into him well enough that he actually left his DS at home because he knew it would interfere. He also is serious about percussion and plays snare on the university's drumline and I guess he realized that was enough of an extracurricular commitment. My 7 year old daughter is amazing ... she recently 'beat' SMG2 without help (up to beating Bowser, i.e. 62 stars or whatever it takes to get the credits). She was able to beat all the puzzle levels in Super Mario Sunshine (with Mario having the jetpack) before she turned 5! My wife is japanese and the typical crazy asian mother (Bplus?!?), so I guess I provide some balance to that.

 

[zeromac]

I'll ask what we're all thinking

Is he asian?

 

[Aeladya]

My grandparents would have been thrilled if I got B's. My grades were rather bad due to learning disabilities and teachers refusing to help because they thought I was lazy. Occasionally I would get good grades if I had teachers that were willing to work with me (I had one amazing teacher that took time out of her life to work with me after school and during lunch), but it was pretty rare. BTW Hanafuda, I know exactly what you mean, my parents were the same way (well my dad anyway, he wished that I was never born, such a douche).

 

[ineap09]

I'll ask what we're all thinking

Is he asian?QUOTE(BloodyFlame @ Jan 21 2011, 02:10 AM) EDIT: I am indeed Asian.

 

[BloodyFlame]

Ok I'm probably as old as your dad or older. So you'll probably consider me as full of shit as him. Fair enough at your age that's normal. And I'll agree with everyone else that going off on you over a B in 7th grade is ridiculous. But just to play devil's advocate to a small extent, I'll give you this to consider ... better to have a parent who's concerned about your academic performance and your future than to have a parent who couldn't care less. I know this from experience. And as someone else here also recommended ... when you get to high school, whether that be 9-12 or 10-12, it will really make a difference if you keep your GPA as high as possible and knock the SAT out of the park. Good luck to you and try to remember that a parent who wants excellence from you is better than a parent who wishes you didn't exist.

edit: by the way, I actually encourage gaming at my house, but school comes first. My oldest is in his freshman year of college and I hammered this into him well enough that he actually left his DS at home because he knew it would interfere. He also is serious about percussion and plays snare on the university's drumline and I guess he realized that was enough of an extracurricular commitment. My 7 year old daughter is amazing ... she recently 'beat' SMG2 without help (up to beating Bowser, i.e. 62 stars or whatever it takes to get the credits). She was able to beat all the puzzle levels in Super Mario Sunshine (with Mario having the jetpack) before she turned 5! My wife is japanese and the typical crazy asian mother (Bplus?!?), so I guess I provide some balance to that.

Even if he didn't care about my academic performance, I would. Of course, it wouldn't be as bad as his.

 

[_Chaz_]

Obviously you're not applying yourself as well as you should be. Now go and hit the books.

 

[Hehe Moo]

Don't let it bother you too much

I'm Asian too... and through all primary (elementary for you) school years, I never got anything below an A. My parents pushed me really hard; I had Chinese school, piano lessons, swimming, and 2-3 tutors, all on top of my schoolwork.

When I started High School my parents pushed me into an "accelerated program", making me do the work of 8th graders during 7th, 9th during 8th, etc.. The work load became too much for me so I began to mess up, getting my first B. My parents were extremely disappointed, but after they got over it and I dropped piano lessons, my grades shot back up. However, I did on occasion screw up several assignments and get Ds.

The key to overcoming such a situation is to simply wait for the anger to pass and just aim for that A. If you show your dad that you've been studying for hours on end, there really isn't anything he can say about your lack of effort.

Good luck mate!

 

[Pyrmon]

Don't let it bother you too much

I'm Asian too... and through all primary (elementary for you) school years, I never got anything below an A. My parents pushed me really hard; I had Chinese school, piano lessons, swimming, and 2-3 tutors, all on top of my schoolwork.

When I started High School my parents pushed me into an "accelerated program", making me do the work of 8th graders during 7th, 9th during 8th, etc.. The work load became too much for me so I began to mess up, getting my first B. My parents were extremely disappointed, but after they got over it and I dropped piano lessons, my grades shot back up. However, I did on occasion screw up several assignments and get Ds.

The key to overcoming such a situation is to simply wait for the anger to pass and just aim for that A. If you show your dad that you've been studying for hours on end, there really isn't anything he can say about your lack of effort.

Good luck mate!

You are what we call an "overachiver"
You do WAAAAAYYY to much stuff. Ain't healthy.
And being disappointed by a B is stupid. B's are a good grade. In fact, you don't need anything more than B's. Getting A's really isn't important(at least, in Canada). You can get around with B's or C's.

 

[Skyline969]

Wow, going apeshit over Bs? A B was great for me in high school, and I'm ecstatic if I get a B in college.

Oh, and... relevant: