I might tell you something that might be news to you, but smiling is a sign of happiness.
Now enter a study that "proves that". Now enter causality not clear to the researchers. Now all of a sudden people are telling other people to smile more, so they can be more happy.
Here is the issue I have with that. For some reason I'm actually rather empathic, and maybe a bit above average, when it comes to reading facial expressions.
I can identify a fake smile pretty much while in sleep, with my eyes closed, and the light turned off (thats not concrete thinking (allegory, metaphor, ...). And it gives me a small punch in the gut everytime I see people trying to employ their fake smile to match the occasion.
So phrases that start like:
- Smile and the world will smile at you
or
- Do good to people and the world will be good to you
to me sound like lies, that sell well. Self help books. Cheap marketing tricks. Auto suggestion, that tricks the body into producing a reaction that holds for 20 minutes top.
The entire "fake it until you make it" ethos is something thats so far removed from my personal sensibilities, that I will never agree to it, just on the surface level - because of some cheap rethorical trick, that make it sound like there is some logic behind it. There is not.
Fake your life better, and "believe in a higher power" Call it Karma, I call it the cheapest thing to make this drama sound like it was predetermined - it was not. A british politician killed a child here. For the sake of getting some facebook likes. Thats not karma either. Thats life.
And now we take a deep breath, and move on...
(Concept of Karma or religion is needed for people to deal with those difficult situations - because they need to shortcut their logic to segment an issue, they cant deal with - positively - any other way. Its there to get people through difficult situations.
We dont need it for a *haha* moment, because a child has died, or a UK politician has facilitated that. Thats not karma either, but thats unforseeable consequences of political action. We call that tragedy, or irony. Sometimes even necessity.
Thats where black/dark humor originates from.)
Now enter a study that "proves that". Now enter causality not clear to the researchers. Now all of a sudden people are telling other people to smile more, so they can be more happy.
Here is the issue I have with that. For some reason I'm actually rather empathic, and maybe a bit above average, when it comes to reading facial expressions.
I can identify a fake smile pretty much while in sleep, with my eyes closed, and the light turned off (thats not concrete thinking (allegory, metaphor, ...). And it gives me a small punch in the gut everytime I see people trying to employ their fake smile to match the occasion.
So phrases that start like:
- Smile and the world will smile at you
or
- Do good to people and the world will be good to you
to me sound like lies, that sell well. Self help books. Cheap marketing tricks. Auto suggestion, that tricks the body into producing a reaction that holds for 20 minutes top.
The entire "fake it until you make it" ethos is something thats so far removed from my personal sensibilities, that I will never agree to it, just on the surface level - because of some cheap rethorical trick, that make it sound like there is some logic behind it. There is not.
Fake your life better, and "believe in a higher power" Call it Karma, I call it the cheapest thing to make this drama sound like it was predetermined - it was not. A british politician killed a child here. For the sake of getting some facebook likes. Thats not karma either. Thats life.
And now we take a deep breath, and move on...
(Concept of Karma or religion is needed for people to deal with those difficult situations - because they need to shortcut their logic to segment an issue, they cant deal with - positively - any other way. Its there to get people through difficult situations.
We dont need it for a *haha* moment, because a child has died, or a UK politician has facilitated that. Thats not karma either, but thats unforseeable consequences of political action. We call that tragedy, or irony. Sometimes even necessity.
Thats where black/dark humor originates from.)
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