Masterpaul said:
:: What is the best sex position?
:: What are the best condoms and why?
:: My gf isnt to kind on the idea of anal... advice.
Okay, the first two questions will only get you opinions, because one answer does not fit all. (much like condoms)
There is no one true "best" sexual position, Everybody likes something different. A high percentage of the women I've spoken with like "doggy-style" the best. (and many of the guys like it best as well) My own personal favorite is referred to as "crossed pine needles" (it probably has some other names too) The woman lays on her side, the guy straddles one of her legs, and pulls the other up on his shoulder or elbow. This allows for deeper/deepest penetration, opens the woman for digital (finger) clitoral stimulation, and will actually allow you to experiment with anal stimulation for her. This position may come in handy when I get to the third answer.
My personal preference in condoms is the Trojan "
ECSTASY" line. The lack of a reservoir tip is a bonus in my book, because those tend only to cause problems and in certain circumstances can lead to tearing of the latex. (This also happens due to use of non-lubricated condoms and sometimes stubble from shaving. Nothing breaks the mood faster than the phrase: "Oh hell, the condom broke."
(Except for the phrase: "Did I take my birth-control?")
And lastly let me share a few 'pointers' (no pun intended) .
If somebody is nervous about anal sex, then it is going to be extremely difficult if not impossible to achieve.
You can't make a big deal out of it, such as "Okay, we're going to have anal sex now. Bend over." you need to work them up to the idea. While in the position mentioned above you might want to try touching her anus gently while making love to her. Show her that she can get pleasure from this as well. (This seems most effective when she is close to orgasm) Don't try to even penetrate her at all the first time you try this. Just apply a little pressure. (like pushing the button on a video game.....and not a fast-paced game) You might rub that area slightly, but don't apply much friction without some sort of lubrication on your finger. After you've tried this a few times she's more ikely to allow you to penetrate her outer sphincter slightly (Do Not Rush This if you Ever want to be allowed to try it again)
After a few months of showing her how anal stimulation can enhance/expand her climax you might be able to talk her into letting you penetrate her anally. And as before, do not rush this if you're allowed to try it. You don't jam it in like a sword into it's scabbard, because that particular orifice is not 'designed' to accept penetration from outside.
The key issue is trust, and gentle treatment.
