Parents doing stupid things behind your back

Don't you just love when your mom does something behind your back which causes frustration?

Yesterday I got two emails which said that my job application was successfully submitted... excuse me?! >_> I'm 100% sure I did *not* sign up for a job >_> Let alone two. This happened while mom was sleeping, so I thought I'll just wait for her to wake up.

After she woke up, I asked her WTF all this is, and she showed me the jobs she picked.
The first job she chose, it was something related to JS, C#, and ASP. Sadly (or luckily?) I don't know ASP, but it seems like it's not needed, you can just work on a different side of the project.
The second job, I'm supposed to be graduating from a "high-level technical school" and be deploying web applications on physical servers and VMs. I'd also need to know Windows and Linux, scripting them (it says bash and PowerShell, but I don't know PowerShit), and deploying web applications. There's just a small problem: I never attended a "high-level technical school", nor am I familiar with deploying web applications (and troubleshooting them), and definitely not on a huge scale.

Okay, I thought I'll just cancel the job applications, until I checked my inbox for new emails; and that's when the hell starts. I got an email saying that my profile was outstandingly above all of the others, and they would love to call me ASAP to discuss the details. There's just a slight problem though: it's related to the web-app deployment job. This is when I started freaking out. I got no usable response from mom, she just went apeshit when I asked her, and just replied with useless "generic" replies like "you don't need to know all the things to be qualified'.

I can't express the feelings I'm having, but I'm so sick right now that I had to take in an antidepressant because I got a panic attack. Can someone who has been all throught this share their experience? I don't know who to ask related to this; mom is useless, and who I could ask are still sleeping, and would be most likely pissed if I were to ask them. Any ideas?
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That's hilarious. Yeah, my parents have tried to do something similar, get me to enroll in an advanced coding program I didn't have the experience for, but at least they backed out when it was confirmed it was asking too much. Probably just respond with, "sorry, I don't believe I have the skill set necessary for this position, somebody else submitted the application on my behalf without my permission." Your other option is go in and interview, be up front about what happened, and try to have some fun with it. If nothing else, it would be good practice.
 
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What you should know:

The ideal candidate doesn't exist, they put those out there to give a general idea of what the job MAY require. Not necessarily will. Go in for the interview, as long as you know bash, you should be fine, if they require powershell, tell them you are willing to learn. You don't have to say yes, but it doesn't hurt to go in for the interview.
 
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@Xzi thank you for the idea, I'll tell them that, but I'll also take @Zhongtiao1 's idea, and tell them that if they are still interested then they could contact me. I'll respond real fast (because it's been there for quite few hours).

Edit: I wrote the letter, but I didn't send it yet, I wanna make sure it's grammatically and formally correct (I hate formality so much).
 
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That would make me mad as hell, to say the least. My parents haven't sent any job applications for me yet, but they've done a hell of a lot of dumb shit
 
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Sounds like she wants you to get a job and move out. No offence, but id say having a kid with a failure to launch would be more frustrating than having someone help you find a job.
 
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@WeedZ you're both very close and very far. Actually she wants to help me find a job (I kid you not, since I was 4yrs old my dream was to work. Yup :P), and deep inside she'd never actually allow me to leave the hourse (which I'm actually not doing, I'm always sitting here deving). But other than that I am a failure, so it's also frustrating for her to find me a job.
 
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You're only a failure if you believe you are. I don't like it when people talk down about themselves. It's just setting your own limitations.
 
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So you're on depression meds, and I guess you're young, and somehow you think your parents trying to get you a job is them being against you?

Jesus christ, we need a eugenics movement.
 
@MadonnaProject I think you misunderstood everything >_>

I have a problem with stuff happening behind my back when they act on my behalf without me knowing about it.
Also, I'm 19.5, if that's young for you...
Also, I'm not on antidepressants, I said I had a panic attack, so it was needed for the panic to not cause further damage in my health.
 
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I think some people have real trouble understanding just how specific some technical fields are -- if you have learned to sell one thing you can probably learn to sell another, and in some cases you can just bluff. I still get the occasional "is this something you can do" thing but thankfully never was signed up. At the same time though I don't especially care if I offend recruiters* -- I don't get them but the very notion of a recruiter being able to give me a panic attack is alien to me.
This is also made worse by you having mastery of https://xkcd.com/627/ and maybe enough knowledge of another area to sort or do a small business/real person problem -- your club/local restaurant needs a "here we are, this is what we do, we have a contact form, book a table even" wordpress (or any other CMS) site? No problem, I will even know enough to find the footer section and get rid of the powered by nonsense, follow the code through on the booking thing to give you the option to extend the booking window (all nicely named variables, file names and functions which are fairly obvious what they do from the name alone), also as I have basic reading comprehension, come from the internet and seemingly have the ability to type I can also sign you up for twatter, facebook and whatever else you 16 year old kid has on their phone and your business guide for complete morons says you need to do to be "online" and in the social meeja space, Give me a site like the one we are on to keep going... cold sweat time.

*said recruiters also seem to have a hard time despite it being their whole job. I can take them being parasites, them being incompetent to boot though... now I (also all my mates) might even antagonise them.

At the same time some technical people should be prepared to step outside their comfort zone a bit more. It can be troubling when the one looking absolutely must have someone just jump right in, possibly with 10 years of experience in a 5 year old technology (and microsoft office of course). That said "ASP" means to me you are going to be inheriting a nightmare so steer clear.

"formally correct"
Fortunately such things don't really exist in English. Just amounts to "don't respond with "alright bro make a wage slave" and you are probably OK".
 
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If you aren't searching for a job yourself or engaged in education maybe you need your mother's help. If you are able to do this yourself she wouldn't feel the need to. She doesn't want to have a 25 year old still living at home eating her food. Rather than get upset think of it as a gentle and helpful prod in the right direction. Hopefully she will now coach you on answering interview questions and help you to look presentable for the interview (help you choose clothes, get you a haircut, etc).

You won't grow if you don't venture outside your comfort zone, she is helping you to do this since it can be hard to make yourself do it.
 
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what did she reply after you told her you don't like her doing things behind your back
 
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Pretty sure he's 19. I know him pretty well, and his mother isn't exactly the greatest.

Otherwise, there's nothing wrong with trying, but parents shouldn't hide these things without saying a word. That's just rude, and overall a shitty move.
 
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Parents do seem to get dumber by the day, but my best advice I could probably give is to contact the organization that that you were signed up for and explain that situation. Maybe you will get in, or be able to quit.
 
Holy hell. D:
The worst that happened to me was my mum completely redecorating my room behind my back when I explicitly asked her not to.
 
Hey kids. If you think your parents are so dumb, go out and survive on your own and stop relying on them.
 
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WeedZ has a funny comment, which is true. But I mean like the things they do can be dumb (not like feeding us and buying stuff) such as getting things incorrect, cleaning up your rooms and misplacing shit (and you lose it).
 
Consider yourself lucky.

I remember a few years ago, I was treatened to become homeless if I didn't find a job on my own.
Job I still have today. As soon as the job was gotten, there was a living pay required to still live there, and that was so expensive that I was unbable to save money.
Just freaking happy I managed to move out, finally save up, and most importantly, not have to deal with parental dictatorship.
 
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OMG, VinsCool, thats awful, but good job getting out of it.
 
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