Affirming gender through notification titles

[Quantumcat]

It can get kind of annoying when people call you the wrong thing. A lot of the GBATemp population have feminine avatars when they are male (probably some with masculine avatars that are female) and non-gender-specific names (or sometimes their name sounds like the opposite gender to what they are in their profile) so these mixups happen often. It results in people having to awkwardly use sentence structures that leave out the gender, or making a (sometimes incorrect) assumption.

So, this is a suggestion to subtly remind people what gender other users have labelled themselves in their profile, so such awkwardness can be reduced somewhat. Akin to having the social cues of voice and looks - nothing in your face but it just works at the back of their mind.

1. Change "[person's name] mentioned you in a post in [thread name]" to "[person's name] mentioned you in her or his post in [thread name]"
2. (In the case that the OP replies to their own thread) Change "[person's name] replied to the thread [thread name]" to "[person's name] replied to her or his thread [thread name]"

And when the person's gender is not specified in their profile, then leave it as it is now.

I can't think of any other sorts of notification titles where you could sneak a her or his in, but just these two circumstances would help.

 

[WeedZ]

Can we all just leave it alone and forget this ever happened?

 

[Luglige]

Can we all just leave it alone and forget this ever happened?

I wish.

 

[deishido]

I honestly wouldn't care, I don't disclose my gender, the thing is that changing it to they, it, fluid, he, she, ny, the point is it won't inconvenience anyone, just say @Luglige or @Ricken (Sorry again Ricken.) and that would bring it futile to even need it. I was saying does it matter to even say they, sorry if I wasn't specific enough.

Oh, I completely misunderstood your response then. Sorry about that. No, it really wouldn't matter to change the notifications, even to they. It would make the notification system feel more natural, but other than that it would simply be an aesthetic change with not real consequence.

@gamesquest1 literally nobody is expecting you to just remember that for every person you run across and literally nobody is forcing you to do anything. What we do expect is that, if in a given thread in a reply to you we say "actually, I'm a dude" it would be more than inconsiderate for you to say "I know you said that, but I'm still gonna call you a girl" we only really care when someone does this stuff absolutely intentionally. The people go go far out of their way to complain about "them transgendereds and their Political Correctness" when they could have just said "he" next time they refer to a person. The people who feel like social politeness is an accusation of their entire being.

I mean, we're still human, we will forgive any simple mistake and most often we don't care if you do it even a few times if its done innocently. It's only a problem for us when an individual comes out and tells us about how they think we don't deserve to be acknowledged by the terms that actually describe us.

 

[hobbledehoy899]

Can we all just leave it alone and forget this ever happened?

but the gender covfefeelings~~~ ;O;

 

[drewby]

My opinion: Honestly, if you are going to get hurt by someone misgendering you, put it in your status or something. If not, just realize that if someone has it in their status, respect their pronouns, and don't misgender someone to be a dick to them.

 

[Quantumcat]

Can we all just leave it alone and forget this ever happened?

I tried to get this thread locked but looks like they wouldn't do it.

 

[Luglige]

I tried to get this thread locked but looks like they wouldn't do it.

I actually laughed, I will hand it to you, I've made (many) threads with (a lot) of (pain) lash back, remember we love you!

 

[Quantumcat]

I actually laughed, I will hand it to you, I've made (many) threads with (a lot) of (pain) lash back, remember we love you!

-_-

Maybe I need to start shitposting or something.

 

[gamesquest1]

Did someone want shitposting?

 

[Luglige]

-_-

Maybe I need to start shitposting or something.

No, that'll get worse.

 

[Futurdreamz]

I would just expect it to default to male. I naturally assume everyone online is male, and if I get hints otherwise I just assume they're fruity. I'd rather not get into a pronoun game, and I'm not about to start treating people different just because they are not guys.


That being said, if one's gender is noted by their avatar (just the symbol will do) and the site either references that or avoids using gender pronouns, then that would be fine too.

 

[jt_1258]

This is why I have a picture of myself in my avatar, well, that and because I'm sexy as hell.

there is always the chance someone could mistake it for your posting a pic of your partner rather then yourself o.o

 

[Pokem]

Offense is taken, not given.

wise words

 

[Dork]

There are only two genders, male and female. Everything else is mental illness.

 

[WeedZ]

There are only two genders, male and female. Everything else is mental illness.

Everybody strap in

 

[grossaffe]

Everybody strap on

Fixed that for you

 

[WeedZ]

Fixed that for you

As soon as I saw "grossaffe quoted your post" I knew this was coming.

 

[Dionicio3]

Why can't we let this thread die?

 

[grossaffe]

As soon as I saw "grossaffe quoted your post" I knew this was coming.

low-hanging fruit, my friend.

 

[WeedZ]

low-hanging fruit, my friend.

It's still fruit