The worst possible plan that I might go through with

[bnwchbammer]

So as you may or may not know, I've been kinda talking to this girl for a little while.
Met her a couple weekends ago.
Still in the kinda getting to know you stage of things, but wutever.
Here's the lowdown:
I'm quite fond of her.
I have no idea what she actually thinks of me.
(Possibly likes me though)
Last weekend she was talking to my friend a hell of a lot more than me.
If I look too deep in it I could bring up Fb and say I'm in her profile pic, but that may be an over analysis.
So yeah, back to last weekend.
We all went out, her and my friend were talking a lot.
Me (in my drunken, jealous state) probably said some stupid things.
Not like I was mad, just kinda... bleh.
Not sure I made the best impression.
Anyway.
On to the worst plan ever.
Ask her out ASAP.
Now.
Why this plan is terrible:
Still don't know her incredibly well.
Could be lost as a friend.
Could come across as... weird.
(though she knows I'm quite weird)
Aaaaaaaand, that's about it.
Why this plan rocks:
If she says yes, then all will be good in life.
I will truly find out what she thinks about me either way.
Alternate plans:
Just talk on a somewhat regular basis to get to know her more.
Don't talk to her and see if she eventually talks to me.
So yeah, perhaps looking for advice.
Though to be quite honest, I probably won't go along with the plan just cuz I'm me, but yeah.
That's that.
Later.

 

[Deleted-236924]

Best plan: Do every option at once; Do alternate plan, and then you do first plan.

 

[Edgedancer]

I would just ask her out. Its best to know what she thinks and it doesnt necessarily mean that you will lose the friendship, it may just be that you wont be the one-on-one kind of friends. That said, I procrastinated with my current (and only) girlfriend and it made me worried, confused and angry a lot since I would constantly over think everything. So you sound a lot like me and I honestly wish that I had kick started the relationship a lot sooner, so I kind of know what you are talking about.

 

[Porro88]

You can ask her out for a coffee. And BTW be yourself, don't think what you have to do/say that day, just go out and have fun with her... Then do wathever you want, say that you like her if you feel confident...let us know how it went

 

[ShadowSoldier]

Ask her out? Are you fucking mental?

 

[SinHarvest24]

Just talk on a somewhat regular basis to get to know her more.

This can be tricky as it could land you in the dreadful 'friend zone'.


My advice, stick around for a few more days doing things (anything really, talking mostly) with her, a lot...but at the same time don't come off as too much as friend...throw in the 2-3 lousy compliments...try to get the flirt thing going.


Then pop the question.


Sad thing about this plan......take too long she'll probably think that you're not all that into her and that it's about time she moves on leaving you in the friend zone where you've fallen into the depths of hell for her and you just can't seem to climb out of.


Seriously....fuck what i initially said. Pop the question, ask her out.

 

[Forstride]

DON'T try to act as more of a friend to her and get to know her better over time. Like SinHarvest said, a lot of guys do this and end up in the "friend zone."

I suggest just starting up a casual conversation with her and asking her if she wants to go have lunch or something. Don't say it like "Do you want to go out with me?" or something along those lines, as that's just rushing it (Well, in perspective. It's all about choice of words).

 

[mocalacace]

I'm in a similar sort of dilemma. I met this girl 4 weeks ago and we've been chilling on the weekends with some friends in her dorms watching some movies. I'm kind of into her and I'm pretty sure she's into me. I invited her over to watch back to the future part 2 with me alone last night and she was cool with it. I was a little nervous and didn't make a move. But at the end of the night I asked her if she wanted to go to one of the plays showing in one of the auditoriums this week. She said yes, and afterwards wants to come back to my dorm and finish the back to the future trilogy.

So, I'm basically almost in the friend zone but kinda not in the friend zone. I plan on making a move when we're walking across campus to the auditorium. If it all works out then we'll be cool and she's definitely into me. But if it doesn't work out I'll just be like oh I thought you were leading me on, can we still at least be friends and just be in the friend zone.

My idea isn't the worst idea ever but I mean if you are in the still getting to know each other you might want to ask her out on a date somewhere first and see if you guys get along (when you are not drunk) then you can get a good idea if she likes you or not.

 

[mcp2]

Sounds like you've been friendzoned?

 

[retKHAAAN]

lol...friendzone...

anyway, I say ask her out. I don't mean ask her to "go steady" or whatever they're calling it these days. I mean ask her if she wants to go out and do something, just the two of you. Movie, a bite to eat, a walk, whatever... There's nothing wrong with the "friendzone". If you're worried about the friendzone you are just trying to get in her pants and probably don't deserve her. Friends become couple all the time and if you're truly friends then there's no harm in putting it out there and having a discussion. Now that you've known her for a few weeks it's the perfect time to put it out there.

 

[miruki]

From a female point of view, I agree with what riposte said.

Just ask her for a normal date, the two of you hanging out somewhere and just wait and see where it goes from there. Take it slow and try to flirt a little when it seems appropiate. If she's interested she'll jump in. If not you can just laugh it off. Get to know her a little better and at some point mention that you'd be interested in more than just being friends, that you enjoy being around her and ask her what she thinks about it.

Don't just drop the bomb on her, be nice and ask her about how she's feeling and all.