Well, since this has spiraled from a gender discussion to an all-out discussion on equality...I'll chime in again.
The basic problem, in my opinion, is that people don't WANT to be treated equally. People want to be given more than the next guy, girl, or <custom gender here>. Add to that idea that people, in general, are horrible to one another and are practically incapable of treating each other as equals...
There are lots of white folk who think they're better than others because their skin is light....yet there's plenty of us white people who tan (real or fake) to get dark skin.
There are lots of black folk who still think they deserve special treatment because people owned black slaves in the US prior to the Civil War.
There are lots of women who still think they deserve preferential treatment because women were told to stay in the kitchen and make babies in the mid-to-late 20th century.
There are lots of other people (LGBT, other ethnic minorities, etc) who still think they have to be in the spotlight and be recognized in order to validate their existence.
There are government mandated programs that REQUIRE most of this to continue.
Equal Opportunity Employers and Affirmative Action laws REQUIRE a business to meet a certain quota of racial and gender diversity. This leads to a couple of points...
If an employer, by choice or by chance, does not have enough minority workers, they are required, by law, to hire a minority... What this means is, if given a highly qualified white candidate and a less qualified minority candidate, they are required to hire the minority to be in compliance with the law. In reverse, if there is a highly qualified minority and a less qualified white candidate, there's nothing stopping the employer from hiring the more qualified candidate. The same goes for a male candidate vs. a female candidate.
Granted, if people were honest and unbiased, the color of a person's skin or their gender would NEVER be considered in the process. But there are still plenty of racist, sexist people out there who would still hire a less qualified candidate because they were white, which is why these laws exist.
In my opinion, anyone who has to shout at the crowd "look at me! I'm here! Notice me, Senpai!" is a weak, pathetic individual.
If you want ME to notice you, then be remarkable. Be interesting. Be amazing! Don't shout at me that you're gay or you identify as a 5th level Sentarian Mockskul Warrior. Don't lecture me on why I'm wrong because I'm a straight, white, male who believes in marriage.
If you are a good person, I don't need to know your race, gender, or sexual orientation. If you are worth knowing, it'll be because of how you treat people and how you make other people feel. It'll have absolutely nothing to do with what color your skin is, what is or isn't between your legs, what god or gods you follow, or what your eating habits are.
Be a good person. Be remarkable. Be amazing. Be kind. Be humble. Be human, because no matter how your body or brain is configured...that's what we all are!