Hello GBAtemp,
I have had many losses in my life but they seem to be happening more often and sometimes, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I hide away and don't say a word, not because I don't care but because I don't know what to say. Two years ago, a colleague lost their son to a horrible accident and many times the couple brings up the death of their child (heartbreaking) and I usually cry in private when I'm done talking to them but during the conversation, I'm usually quiet and listen as I'm not sure what to say. Every year, two years in a row now they have turned their son's death into a marathon where tons of people gather to go on a 5k run as his parents are teachers/track coaches. My family goes to support them but when we talk personally, I'm a deer in the headlights. Recently, another teacher just lost her son to suicide and I didn't want to just sit by idlily like I usually do. I asked if she needed someone to talk to or if their family needed some food if they didn't want to cook or if they need some chores done on their ranch, our family will be there for them. My children knew their son and it has taken a toll on them as well.
I'm reaching out to you to ask if I have said or done the right things as I usually hide away from people that have suffered a great loss but I have been trying to change and be more proactive to not be what I used be like. So my question is, am I taking the right steps? Is there anything that I can do better? Because I'm not good when it comes to the loss of others.
Thank you, and I appreciate your input.
I have had many losses in my life but they seem to be happening more often and sometimes, I don't know what to say. Sometimes I hide away and don't say a word, not because I don't care but because I don't know what to say. Two years ago, a colleague lost their son to a horrible accident and many times the couple brings up the death of their child (heartbreaking) and I usually cry in private when I'm done talking to them but during the conversation, I'm usually quiet and listen as I'm not sure what to say. Every year, two years in a row now they have turned their son's death into a marathon where tons of people gather to go on a 5k run as his parents are teachers/track coaches. My family goes to support them but when we talk personally, I'm a deer in the headlights. Recently, another teacher just lost her son to suicide and I didn't want to just sit by idlily like I usually do. I asked if she needed someone to talk to or if their family needed some food if they didn't want to cook or if they need some chores done on their ranch, our family will be there for them. My children knew their son and it has taken a toll on them as well.
I'm reaching out to you to ask if I have said or done the right things as I usually hide away from people that have suffered a great loss but I have been trying to change and be more proactive to not be what I used be like. So my question is, am I taking the right steps? Is there anything that I can do better? Because I'm not good when it comes to the loss of others.
Thank you, and I appreciate your input.