What the heck is wrong with some girls?

[astrangeone]

Alright. One of my courses this semester involved designing a program for around 30 people. We were split up into different groups (reflective, ice-breaker, social, physical, etc), and we were randomly assigned group members. I ended up in a group with a jock I worked with before (nice guy, although he needs to be prompted for everything), a ditzy but hardworking gal, a female baseball player, and one very cynical guy.

Fine. We get to know each other, and also, our different work ethics for the program/reports. I don't have a problem with any of the people, I just needed to get into "hen mother" mode, and try to solve the groups problems. Fine, we get along well, until the presentation of the program at camp. It's freezing, and we suffer through really really bad food, and along the way, I get the liquidshits from eating too much dairy. (Hello, lactose-intolerance!) I get a black eye in the physical portion of the programs - damn dodgeball!

So, I notice the baseball player is a bit cynical, and tends to share an odd taste of humor with the cynical guy. The other people, I don't mind - apparently, the ditzy girl is being courted by the resident "rich guy". Not a problem. The ditzy girl, I can handle...except she acts ten times as ditzy or helpless around the guy.

Damn damsel in distress syndrome. Honestly, it's a bit much. And it happens around every guy she talks to - it's her MO. I'm not as annoyed as I should be, because she's a nice girl when she's not around the guys also, but she turns into a completely helpless person!

I don't know why, but two-faced women like this really piss me off.

PS - Am reading Animorphs - wish I found this sooner - they are an very well-written series!

 

[Hop2089]

She's got learned helplessness along with the damsel in distress syndrome, at least she's quite decent because most who are like that are borderline which are a pain in the ass to work with.

 

[WildWon]

@astrangeone

I can't stand girls like that. Met one in one of my college art classes. Really nice girl, very attractive but played the helpless girl WAYYY too much. Worse yet was changing the vocal pitch when she talked to me (or any guy for that matter). Didn't catch it right away, but i would listen to her talk with other girls, and her normal voice sounded good, but then if i'd pipe up, or she'd turn to ask me something, up her voice went, and she'd sound... spacey.

I thank all that is holy that i met (and married) a chick that doesn't pull any of that shit.

 

[DozerGuy]

Its regressed feelings about her father coming to the surface.

 

[astrangeone]

I guess it's learned helplessness - but I bet it's more about getting the guy's attention; holding his attention and the like. There is a reason why I dislike most of these girls - they tend to modulate their voices for the guys, and then talk to the girls like that too. I dunno. Just a rather minor complaint; but she tends to do this to all guys - she was talking to the president of our Pride organization on campus, and she did it as well. (He's a very out homosexual.)

 

[The Catboy]

I know so many girls in my school who are like that. Gets annoying fast being around them.
Personally I don't put up with girls acting helpless around me. Girls try it around me and I am always like "No, go away."

 

[Canonbeat234]

Wow, I never knew you was lactose-intolerant (I thought I was the only person but don't speak proudly of it due to excess gas and diarrhea; not very proud of it). Anyways, I did met a girl like that on AOL where she did change her personality WAAAAY too many times that it was hard to decipher her mood according to her posting inside the chatrooms. There were times she was calm then lovesick then serious then annoyed. For some reason I someone cause her to broke up with her previous boyfriend then for her to find another boyfriend. This was like 6-7 years ago, oh well I hope you succeed on your team project.

Also challenge the ditzy girl, you'll be surprised how much potential they have when they don't want to look helpless.

 

[astrangeone]

Wow, I never knew you was lactose-intolerant (I thought I was the only person but don't speak proudly of it due to excess gas and diarrhea; not very proud of it). Anyways, I did met a girl like that on AOL where she did change her personality WAAAAY too many times that it was hard to decipher her mood according to her posting inside the chatrooms. There were times she was calm then lovesick then serious then annoyed. For some reason I someone cause her to broke up with her previous boyfriend then for her to find another boyfriend. This was like 6-7 years ago, oh well I hope you succeed on your team project.

Also challenge the ditzy girl, you'll be surprised how much potential they have when they don't want to look helpless.

Yeah, the project got done. The ditzy girl does good work, although her papers (was editing for the entire team) were pepperred with enough jargon to kill a horse. I admired her work when we were presenting - it is hard to actually speak up, and even I was rather nervous, and I do shows in drag, for pete's sake. (Drag kings - women dressing as guys and dancing to it.)

I didn't know I was lactose-intolerant until camp. That was unpleasant. Seriously was, because it was an entire weekend of dairy rich foods. (1st night was spaghetti with meat clumps, the other two nights were pizza/lasagna and garlic bread.) I swear, I ended up taking a shit that was mostly water into the toilet. That was my confirmation - I had switched to lactose free milk in my daily routine, and the amount of gas was minimal.

 

[playallday]

Worse yet was changing the vocal pitch when she talked to me (or any guy for that matter). Didn't catch it right away, but i would listen to her talk with other girls, and her normal voice sounded good, but then if i'd pipe up, or she'd turn to ask me something, up her voice went, and she'd sound... spacey.

That's very normal though, a lot of girls do that. Still, it's really annoying!

 

[WildWon]

Aww... about a year ago i was working in a bar that held drag shows once or twice a month. I miss those kings and queens.

 

[Raika]

(1st night was spaghetti with meat clumps, the other two nights were pizza/lasagna and garlic bread.)

I envy you, when I go to camps the food there is disgusting.

 

[lincruste]

Its regressed feelings about her father coming to the surface.

Or maybe she's just another attention whore.

 

[astrangeone]

Aww... about a year ago i was working in a bar that held drag shows once or twice a month. I miss those kings and queens.

Our two gay/lesbian bars are jam packed with cross-dressers/drag. You should have seen them on halloween - everyone thought it would be a good idea to dress in drag! I was in drag as Pyramid Head also, but a decidely cold PH.

Yeah, our queens are interesting! One of them on halloween did some music from the Evil Dead musical. "All the men in my life" with two kings and a queen!