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Yeah, just talk to them. There isn't some secret gotcha language for girls.
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I'm reluctant to ask this question for several reasons
- When people ask questions like this online most of the answers range from useless (just be yourself) to both stupid and useless (all the examples that come to mind would instantly derail the thread).
- I've learned a lot more about girls from real life than posts online.
- My friends who do get laid tell me my social skills are up to the job. I believe them and just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't happen.
But with that said, I have never had a girlfriend before and you do find some useful pieces of information in threads like these.
This is very much the case, unfortunately. :\If you're looking for a nerdy girl, you aren't going to find her at a bar or a hip social spot
If you can be friends with them then you're 90% of the way there. When you become friends with someone where a romantic thing is a possibility, it will happen naturally. You don't have to try and learn how to make it happen. Just wait until you meet the right girl and you feel that spark. If you haven't felt love before you might mistake attraction for it. But you'll know it when you feel it. You can worry about how to communicate what you feel to the girl to see if it is mutual when that happens! And in any case, guys that see every human in a skirt as a possible girlfriend and indiscriminately pursue all of them aren't very attractive. Better if they are interested in you because you're you and you're special to them.Lets clarify why I posted this. I've never had a girlfriend before and I want one. When I find one sex will naturally happen sooner or later but I don't walk up to a girl and talk to her with my primary objective being to fuck her.
I can talk to girls well enough to make friends but mutual romance just doesn't seem to exist in my life.
Personally I find if someone asks me what I do for a living, especially as a conversation opener, that it is a dead giveaway I am speaking to an American. Also being coy/non specific can also often be taken to be you playing up your role, or hiding an unpleasant one (hi I am an undertaker/mortician sort of thing).What do you do for a living?
"I'm in the medical field" instead of "I'm a nurse at such facility and a student at such college" that way you don't become too boring and there's always conversation starters. Plus I think it adds a level of mystery that they want to figure out.
You may have to learn to read the signs. While it is nice when a young (or older, experience counts for a lot and all) lady comes up and says "I love/like you, do you wish to hang out/make out/be my boyfriend?" I get the impression that many would rather die than operate like that, or at least would consider doing such a thing something of a social faux pas (in the English speaking world anyway). To that end the stereotypes have a basis in reality where blokes will talk overtly (possibly via grunting and headbutts) and the ladies will go for far more subtle things (looks, certain types of eye contact, giggling, waving, touching and the list goes on, though it may not mean what you think it means) even if they or their mates think it is really obvious. In my experience the only ones any good at this while young are those with older or similar aged sisters that they are around. Everybody else gets to fumble (or indeed end up light on the fumbling thing for a while). If you can hang out with someone in that position such that they can point this out to you.Lets clarify why I posted this. I've never had a girlfriend before and I want one. When I find one sex will naturally happen sooner or later but I don't walk up to a girl and talk to her with my primary objective being to fuck her.
I can talk to girls well enough to make friends but mutual romance just doesn't seem to exist in my life.
Personally I find if someone asks me what I do for a living, especially as a conversation opener, that it is a dead giveaway I am speaking to an American. Also being coy/non specific can also often be taken to be you playing up your role, or hiding an unpleasant one (hi I am an undertaker/mortician sort of thing).