Girlfriend with a male best friend?

[Deleted-379826]

Guys @mikefor20 has gave me the courage to finally reveal myself. I will finally start being true. I love women. HERE I COME!

 

[Deleted-355425]

whoah, dudes are jerks.

Its human nature, nothing jerk about it.

 

[Foxi4]

whoah, dudes are jerks.

It doesn't make them jerks in any way. They just appreciate women for what makes them women, there's no reason to pretend that we're gender-blind.

 

[yuyuyup]

 

[Social_Outlaw]

I don't want to say it, but If my GF has a male best friend they known for years, no doubt in my mind I wouldn't worry because I did the same thing when I was in High school, which was flirting with my BF. I don't know even know how it occurred actually, but I have learned a lot of things since high school.

Also about the part that people keep mentioning that Men just want that....
Men are predators to a point, I have some attractive female friends, but all I can say when it comes to that when your older is Suppress your feelings and reserve dude, I don't want to lose any friend because of my ways.

 

[Alex658]

Whoa, thank god I don't even like girls so i don't have to deal with this kind of stuff IRL.

(though i do have to deal with the gay guy equivalent, so yeah. Nvm that. It's the same type of sh!t; whereas you are ok with their female friends, but wary of his other gay "friends")

I haven't been the most well behaved boy overall and i really regret that. Which is why i decided to do things differently from last year onwards... Anyway just beware of the "red flags" and if you see more than one in a short amount of time, gtfo before you get too attached.

 

[osaka35]

It doesn't make them jerks in any way. They just appreciate women for what makes them women, there's no reason to pretend that we're gender-blind.

Well, I was more thinking of the ulterior motives thing. In my mind, there's a difference between "it'd be down for that" and "maybe if I do X, she'll do Y". And "I hope this happens" and "I bet she'll totally do me if I can just get her in the bedroom". There's always on the lookout and there's shady stuff.

 

[mikefor20]

You shouldn't discuss things like that on this site, really. The most girlfriends here probably popped in a stormy romance.

What does that have to do with anything? Please.

Guys @mikefor20 has gave me the courage to finally reveal myself. I will finally start being true. I love women. HERE I COME!

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LIAR!

OP, If you wan an online or gay relationship listen to the MALES. I am sure they can teach you to be a good woman. I already told you, HE wants her but as long as SHE wants you everything is fine. just be the guy that she liked in the first place, not jealous or submissive, be confident, fun and go for it.

 

[Foxi4]

Well, I was more thinking of the ulterior motives thing. In my mind, there's a difference between "it'd be down for that" and "maybe if I do X, she'll do Y". And "I hope this happens" and "I bet she'll totally do me if I can just get her in the bedroom". There's always on the lookout and there's shady stuff.

Welcome to the real world. If you go out with someone for an evening, you do it for a purpose - to have fun. If the circumstances are right, it comes as no surprise that guys will spin their game. It's not necessarily pre-planned, it may very well be an impulse, but if an invitation seems a little too good to be true, it probably is and the only reason a guy isn't honest about it is because it's part of the dance - you two can talk about it if the mood turns out to be right. It's really not as malicious as you describe it.

 

[dankzegriefer]

fuck no, if youre a girl and you have a guy as a best friend, they wanna fuck. Hands down. No exceptions.

I'm a dude and I have a female best friend.
Never once have I thought of getting in her panties.
Might not want to be a presumptive idiot.

 

[mikefor20]

I'm a dude and I have a female best friend.
Never once have I thought of getting in her panties.
Might not want to be a presumptive idiot.

She's either ugly, out of your league, taken, not in to you(in to someone else) you are 12,gay,puss,virgin or a liar. There is something.

 

[Bimmel]

What does that have to do with anything? Please.

Just a bad joke.

But for some serious advice: He should ask someone who actually KNOWS these people - asking strangers for their "experience" could, especially after I read some the serious meant comments here, only make things worse.

She's either ugly, out of your league, taken, not in to you(in to someone else) you are 12,gay,puss,virgin or a liar. There is something.

..exactly "logic" like that. Spare others with that great knowledge of yours. Believe it or not, there are people using their heads. Not everything is about getting each other naked.

 

[Lord M]

My opinion (if you dont like it, never mind): gf with best male friend cant exist. The "best friend" it has almost always another purpose... a gf with male best friend have more chance than others to cheated...

 

[dankzegriefer]

She's either ugly, out of your league, taken, not in to you(in to someone else) you are 12,gay,puss,virgin or a liar. There is something.

She's in a relationship and I'm not some idiot trying to constantly get laid. I knew her before she was dating anyone.
Also no, not gay.

 

[osaka35]

Welcome to the real world. If you go out with someone for an evening, you do it for a purpose - to have fun. If the circumstances are right, it comes as no surprise that guys will spin their game. It's not necessarily pre-planned, it may very well be an impulse, but if an invitation seems a little too good to be true, it probably is and the only reason a guy isn't honest about it is because it's part of the dance - you two can talk about it if the mood turns out to be right. It's really not as malicious as you describe it.

mmm I think I just suck at maneuvering people then.

 

[Foxi4]

She's in a relationship and I'm not some idiot trying to constantly get laid. I knew her before she was dating anyone.
Also no, not gay.

You know that interfacing with a woman doesn't necessarily mean that you want to immediately get laid with her, right? I very much doubt that it never "twitched" on you unexpectedly, unless you two have a very close, sibling-like relationship which is incredibly rare. Good for you if that's the case, but I can't help but wonder if she feels the same way.

It's a good exercise in real life, by the way. If you're a woman, ask your "male friends" if they ever thought of you in a romantic way, or if you're a man, ask your "female friends" the same question, just out of curiosity. It tends to be a really good eye opener - gets people flustered and embarrassed, but sometimes you learn something interesting if they're being honest, and you can tell if they are.

mmm I think I just suck at maneuvering people then.

Oh, everyone does it, often without realising it.

 

[mikefor20]

Just a bad joke.

But for some serious advice: He should ask someone who actually KNOWS these people - asking strangers for their "experience" could, especially after I read some the serious meant comments here, only make things worse.

Only thing he wanted to know in the first place was weather he should worry about the BFF. The answer is not really. He should know the BFF more than likely, %99.9 wants to fuck her. But the OP shouldn't worry and just continue to be the guy she wants. HIS intentions don't matter,only HERS and IF she is in to the OP no worries. That's the truth. Just cause a couple guys in here go " My BFF is a girl" does not change the fact that the BFF, probably,more than 50/50, more like 99.9% wants that ass. But i will say it again. It DOES NOT MATTER WHAT HE THINKS. Anything the OP does will probably result in looking like a tool and pushing her away. So, don't worry about it. Just try to be a good BF so she wont look elsewhere.

 

[dankzegriefer]

You know that interfacing with a woman doesn't necessarily mean that you want to immediately get laid with her, right? I very much doubt that it never "twitched" on you unexpectedly, unless you two have a very close, sibling-like relationship which is incredibly rare. Good for you if that's the case, but I can't help but wonder if she feels the same way.

It's a good exercise in real life, by the way. If you're a woman, ask your "male friends" if they ever thought of you in a romantic way, or if you're a man, ask your "female friends" the same question, just out of curiosity. It tends to be a really good eye opener - gets people flustered and embarrassed, but sometimes you learn something interesting if they're being honest, and you can tell if they are.

Yeah no kidding, the first sentence you say is what I'm stating.
It might have, no memory of such.

 

[Foxi4]

Only thing he wanted to know in the first place was weather he should worry about the BFF. The answer is not really. He should know the BFF more than likely, %99.9 wants to fuck her. But the OP shouldn't worry and just continue to be the guy she wants. HIS intentions don't matter,only HERS and IF she is in to the OP no worries. That's the truth. Just cause a couple guys in here go " My BFF is a girl" does not change the fact that the BFF, probably,more than 50/50, more like 99.9% wants that ass. But i will say it again. It DOES NOT MATTER WHAT HE THINKS. Anything the OP does will probably result in looking like a tool and pushing her away. So, don't worry about it. Just try to be a good BF so she wont look elsewhere.

Crude but true - you already won the war, you're the Significant Other.

 

[mikefor20]

Just a bad joke.

..exactly "logic" like that. Spare others with that great knowledge of yours. Believe it or not, there are people using their heads. Not everything is about getting each other naked.

LIAR! Everything falls back to survival and sex(survival of the species) You all need to grow up. The world is not pretty and full of moonbeams and rainbows. You all can't even admit the truth you are so caught up in being femmes. Grow a pair.

 

[dankzegriefer]

LIAR! Everything falls back to survival and sex(survival of the species) You all need to grow up. The world is not pretty and full of moonbeams and rainbows. You all can't even admit the truth you are so caught up in being femmes. Grow a pair.

You sound so crazy right now It's not even funny.

 

[VinsCool]

She's either ugly, out of your league, taken, not in to you(in to someone else) you are 12,gay,puss,virgin or a liar. There is something.

Holy shit dude how old are you? 15? Common, if you really are 38 years old and gained life experience, no way would you ever think like that.

 

[dankzegriefer]

Holy shit dude how old are you? 15? Common, if you really are 38 years old and gained life experience, no way would you ever think like that.

Rude! I'm friends with 15 year olds!