Girlfriend with a male best friend?

[mikefor20]

No. Not interested is not interested. And honestly, I can see why plenty of girls wouldn't be interested with that enormous ego of yours. It's pathetic. But your refusal to accept that friendship isn't the reason girls aren't interested in you is throwing off the topic.

Anyway, back on topic. As I said before, you've got nothing to worry about, but sometimes we all worry about things we shouldn't, so ignore the hate.


He sounds like a troll. We should probably stop feeding him.

Joostin, I'm not saying they can't be friends, I am saying the other guy, definitely, without a doubt, wants to hit it. Unless he is gay or a puss or she is nasty or something, he wants to hit it. Someday it will come out. Women might be able to ignore it but it's on their mind too. At least sometimes. We are all animals. Anything else would be an anomaly.

 

[JoostinOnline]

Joostin, I'm not saying they can't be friends, I am saying the other guy, definitely, without a doubt, wants to hit it. Unless he is gay or a puss or she is nasty or something, he wants to hit it. Someday it will come out. Women might be able to ignore it but it's on their mind too. At least sometimes. We are all animals. Anything else would be an anomaly.

That is an incredibly childish view, as well as false. I can attest to it. Plenty of us just want to be friends with some women. If either of my best friends came onto me, I'd stop it. They're attractive, and I'm straight, but I'm NOT an animal.

Now stop trying to freak the OP out. He doesn't have anything to worry about.

 

[mikefor20]

The rest of what you said is stupid too. I did very well when I was single. I am just realistic. OP if you want to be friends forever, listen to joostin. You wanna get laid and see where it goes. Be a man

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That is an incredibly childish view, as well as false. I can attest to it. Plenty of us just want to be friends with some women. If either of my best friends came onto me, I'd stop it. They're attractive, and I'm straight, but I'm NOT an animal.

Now stop trying to freak the OP out. He doesn't have anything to worry about.

I was not trying to scare him. I said HER intentions are the only that matter. But dude is definitely trying to hit it.. If you think otherwise your a fool.

 

[cvskid]

OP is only like 20 years old anyways. He should be enjoying his youth not looking for a serious relationship at that age.

 

[nedron92]

I can only say, grow up. Nowadays is normal to have a best friend that has not the same gender as you.
My best friends are also female and there are in a stable relationship, it doesn't matter me, because theyre my best friends so I'm happy for them. And the boys have to deal with it (and also therer have best-friends which are female, so... ). They know me now, but also before, they have to deal with it

 

[Clydefrosch]

Yet ive been in a relationship for probably a lot longer than you have xD1

i pitty that poor, poor figment of your imagination.

OP, just ask yourself this: would you want to be with yourself if you're acting like this?
or would you feel that you're immature and needy and probably regret starting to date you?

in addition, would you end all your lifelong friendships if she was uncomfortable with them?
probably not.

so do the right thing. introduce her to your friends and let yourself be introduced to hers. then start having a healthy relationship embedded in a rich social network.

 

[Kinqdra]

Thanks for all the advice!
I told her I trust her today. If she chooses to abuse it, I guess she wasn't the one for me anyway.
Along with that, I've started working on my self confidence to get rid of those insecurities that lead me to all those doubts in the first place. I'll ask her to introduce me to him when it feels natural for me to do so. Thanks again guys

 

[Engert]

Here's some advice for you girls: http://www.ibtimes.com/want-look-pretty-stand-next-ugly-person-science-says-2425650?amp=1

If you want to look attractive on a date, bring an ugly retarded friend with you to improve your chances of being liked.

 

[Deleted-355425]

If shes been friends for a long time then give it some time because if you come strait out with how you feel it may upset her or push her away from you, you will have plenty of weight to dump him off as her friend later when you get some months to a year under your belt (of being with her)

 

[cearp]

arguably your girlfriend/boyfriend/partner should be your best friend, so if that bestfriend is someone else... yeah

Uhm, my best friend irl was a girl for years and years, at no point did I ever want to fuck.
Sorry but your logic is flawed.

but also you are 16... so it's a bit different lol

 

[Deleted-355425]

guys dont have female friends, they have females they havent fucked... yet! lol

 

[cvskid]

guys dont have female friends, they have females they havent fucked... yet! lol

Exactly. Whether moment it takes 10 months or 10 years, that male "friend" is just waiting for the right moment to strike. A wolf in sheep's clothing if you will. Some guys are extremely patient when comes to things like that.

Hard to be a straight guy and be friends with a girl from what i have seen. Probably why girls sometimes prefer gay guys as male friends. No sexual tension from either party.

 

[Supster131]

Things like this can be complicated for sure! I wouldn't worry about it too much. As others have said, if they haven't hooked up in those 10 years of being best friends, they most likely won't hook up later. As long as you treat your girlfriend properly and give her the attention she deserves, you should be fine.

 

[LittleFlame]

It's not like it never crosses my mind but seriously have y'all considered the fact that not all men are horndogs? jesus this is pathetic

 

[Issac]

I haven't read all the comments, and there's a big chance I'm regurgitating what others have already said.

But no. You shouldn't worry. Honestly, there are people out there who are deceiving asses, and maybe your girlfriend is one. There's no way to know.
If she is one, just having a best friend of the opposite sex won't be the only problem. So removing that friend would do nothing in the end.
The only thing you're doing by denying her having a friend, is pushing her away and making an ass out of yourself.

 

[LittleFlame]

fuck no, if youre a girl and you have a guy as a best friend, they wanna fuck. Hands down. No exceptions.

shit @Chary looks like I wanted to fuck you a few years back

 

[Subtle Demise]

fuck no, if youre a girl and you have a guy as a best friend, they wanna fuck. Hands down. No exceptions.

Unless they're gay. Then again, you never know if they're pretending to be gay for some female attention, although I'm pretty sure that only happens on TV.

 

[cvskid]

It's not like it never crosses my mind but seriously have y'all considered the fact that not all men are horndogs? jesus this is pathetic

Once you are old enough to be outside of school and into the working world where you rarely have time to be around women constantly outside of a work environment you will understand somewhat then. You are still in school most likely so you have the opportunities to be around girls all the time.

I can see where you are coming from with that though.

 

[Zeriel]

@Kinqdra

Op please ignore the dumb asses saying "grow up kid" they're probably 12 year olds themselves or have their heads too far up their own ass to give you useful advise.
The truth is that not every girl is the same, maybe he's just a friend and nothing more, maybe she's a huge slut that goes around with all her "priviledged" friends, the
point is that YOU DON"T KNOW. You need to treat carefully here, going crazy and jealous could ruin it for you but being passive and gullible could also mean everyone
else is passing your GF around and you're the fallout guy. Don't be that guy, find out who he is, talk to them seriously, judge for yourself what kind of girl she truly is.
Always judge by her actions and not her words, this is important. Find out her reputation, know her family and BE CAREFUL, you need to do all this naturally and don't
come on as a maniac but above all you also need to look out for number one, yourself. If she turns out to be a slut you want to be the first one to know and GTFO, if she's a nice
girl then she needs to slowly prove it and build her trust. Men don't have to give women free trust cards just because they have more demand, they need to earn it.

Also you always need to keep your pride as a man OP, even if she's a nice girl, if she has a serious relationship
with you, you need to be her no1 choice. It may not be like that on day 1 but this is what you need to aim for.
Do't be anybody's plan B, if after a few months she stills prefer her BFF over you then GTFO, don't give your 100%
only to receive 50% in return.

Good luck OP

 

[RustInPeace]

Two letters, D...P. Problem solved .